Could you date a minor legally?

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Could you date a minor legally?

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I do believe that technically you could befriend minors legally if it isn't romantic or sexual. But about the romantic part, how would you even determine or prove that? I'm also pretty sure that legally you could technically date a minor and even kiss them, so if someone could clarify to me what you potentially could and could not do in terms of the law, that would be useful
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Kissing is already illegal in many places where kissing is considered a sexual act thar necessitates consent. I don't think friendships are illegal anywhere. This may not be very helpful, but consult the local laws.
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Learning to undeny wrote: Thu Nov 27, 2025 9:34 pm Kissing is already illegal in many places where kissing is considered a sexual act thar necessitates consent. I don't think friendships are illegal anywhere. This may not be very helpful, but consult the local laws.
No, it's not. It's also very common for relatives to kiss, and it isn't considered romantic or sexual
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Undercover wrote: Thu Nov 27, 2025 9:42 pm No, it's not. It's also very common for relatives to kiss, and it isn't considered romantic or sexual
It can depend on the context, so be careful.

Edit: It's Luis Rubiales' case that motivates my warning. They were both adults, but the kiss was not consensual. However, I am not sure how common prosecution is.
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Learning to undeny wrote: Thu Nov 27, 2025 9:59 pm
Undercover wrote: Thu Nov 27, 2025 9:42 pm No, it's not. It's also very common for relatives to kiss, and it isn't considered romantic or sexual
It can depend on the context, so be careful.

Edit: It's Luis Rubiales' case that motivates my warning. They were both adults, but the kiss was not consensual. However, I am not sure how common prosecution is.
For youngsters, I'd say it certainly depends on context (and location). A kiss on their forehead can been seen as innocent (non-sexual) whereas a kiss on their mouth is questionable. Locking lips will pretty much earns you more attention than you want (and certainly crosses into sexual in nature).
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Learning to undeny wrote: Thu Nov 27, 2025 9:59 pm
Undercover wrote: Thu Nov 27, 2025 9:42 pm No, it's not. It's also very common for relatives to kiss, and it isn't considered romantic or sexual
It can depend on the context, so be careful.

Edit: It's Luis Rubiales' case that motivates my warning. They were both adults, but the kiss was not consensual. However, I am not sure how common prosecution is.
I never said anything about forcefully kissing anyone
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I thought it was legal for adults of any age to date or mix with anyone including minors. The only difference is it one of them is under the legal age of consent, they just can’t do anything sexual.
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Undercover wrote: Thu Nov 27, 2025 9:42 pm
Learning to undeny wrote: Thu Nov 27, 2025 9:34 pm Kissing is already illegal in many places where kissing is considered a sexual act thar necessitates consent. I don't think friendships are illegal anywhere. This may not be very helpful, but consult the local laws.
No, it's not. It's also very common for relatives to kiss, and it isn't considered romantic or sexual
Laws regarding sexual contact with minors (and content involving minors for that matter) allow for context to determine whether it's illegal or not. It has to be this way because otherwise you would be arrested for molesting a child for wiping your infant's ass after a diaper change. It "isn't considered romantic or sexual" when relatives kiss, but these laws practically always allow for the justice system to determine whether they considered what you do sexual or not.

Take the UK's Sexual Offences (2003) Act. Section 7 is the main law used to convict people for sexual contact with under 13s. It does not have a specific set of sexual circumstances, or a list of "dos and don'ts" that would imply kissing is fine. There are three conditions to be charged. These are;
(a)he intentionally touches another person,

(b)the touching is sexual, and

(c)the other person is under 13.
It doesn't even need to be on the genitals. All that has to be done from this point is to determine if you made contact for sexual reasons, and that it was intentional. The person that decides that will be the judge. In other words, if a judge decides that you kissed your "date" for sexual gratification, you could face conviction. The section that would apply to 13-16 is pretty much the same.

Laws generally look like this across most of the west as far as I'm aware. California's Penal Code 288 criminalizes all "lewd and lascivious" acts with minors, which would include kissing for sexual gratification — once again decided on by a judge. The intent implies criminal behavior, rather than the behavior itself.

Edit: To answer the question, I guess you could "date" a minor in the strict sense that you agree to be dating legally. However once you start to do things that people that actually date do from even just cuddling, it would break laws in most places because it would be determined that you're doing it for sexual gratification on the grounds that you have a clear sexual interest.
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If there is no sexual contact i believe it isn't illegal however that doesn't mean it is accepted it is still very much a big social taboo and you would be walking into dangerous waters just by even simply getting into a relationship with a minor sexual or not you would be walking on egg shells.
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