Why Teenage Daughters Start Treating Their Dads Differently

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Well since then I've talked to various women who experienced something similar. I mean friends in real life on girls nights out and people online and it seems very common. It is said that dad is a girls first lover, and it's said that girls instinctively compare future boyfriends to their dad for that reason. A guy has to live up to dad to be a good lover. It's subconscious for many and conscious for others. For me I've been aware that I unfairly compare guys to my dad but I think most girls do whether they realise it or not.

I’m glad you’re here to share that because I honestly think that this goes on in every girls life. I think it's way more common for girls than boys. No offense at all but red pill content has come up with a statement that men need to accept that “women are just adult children”. I believe that statement stems from this topic. Women yearn for that love they got from their fathers at a young age. It’s an unforgettable experience. Men are girls/women protecters and providers. So everything you felt is natural.

This sounds accurate. I was always much closer to my dad for as long as I remember. He was kinder, a friend, he listened, he cared for, he understood. I knew he was busy but he was to me the object of my affections more so than my mother. Even as a young child I would think of him as my boyfriend as well. Who did I want to drive me to school? Dad. Who did I want to take me to the shops? Dad. Who did I want to hang out with? Dad. Who did I want to cuddle up to under the covers? Dad. I loved being close to him, he made me feel special and protected for and loved and I understood he was the different gender and that always added an exciting element to it, my first boyfriend.

It's hard for any guy to live up to that. For the sexual side I always had that physical draw towards him, I always wanted more from him. I mean I knew mom had his physical attention but there was some jealousy from me and I wanted that. I didn't feel mom deserved it like I did and we were closer so why just her? Obviously I never pushed in that direction, I never felt I could, so they had to be thoughts and feelings held inside. When he left those feelings and fantasies just ballooned into something much stronger. It was only later when he re-entered my life that I could get some level on control over them.

But what has surprised me is how universal this seems. So many friends and people I've talked to have experienced the same thing to one degree or another. Nobody has said an outright "no they didn't", the closest to that is friends who have blushed and just said they can't talk about it, they're married or it's too embarrassing. I do wonder if there are or have been societies where that relationship is allowed to grow more naturally and physically and what the impacts have been. Have they become more confident? Has is helped or harmed being able to form later relationships? Does that natural comparison remain the same or increase or decrease? Questions like that.

After spending an abnormal amount of time using the website tool for the Big Kink Study to explore the correlation between different kinks and fetishes, and looking at how many people share different fetishes, and just how many people are into way kinkier stuff than I ever thought, it made me realize. I can guarantee you way more people share similar kinks and fantasies with you than you can ever imagine, even the ones you think are the most depraved and degenerate. And even with the survey being anonymous, I'm sure there's plenty of people who felt too ashamed of their own kinks to admit to all of them.

I feel like people are more accepting of certain kinks than you'd think too. The key is having a one-on-one space where they feel safe sharing it. I almost screwed up bad about a year ago, when I took a girl home from the bar. Both pretty drunk, but a few Adderall each and we were good to play for a few hours. And I barely remember how it started, but we were talking about kinks or fetishes, and telling each other ours are worse etc, and for some reason my drunk ass decided to tell her I was attracted to 13 year olds. She basically looked at me and shrugged and said she has fantasies about necrophilia, so she's not judging. I was pretty shocked. Another ex, who is aware of my minor attraction, admitted in a conversation once she could see herself sucking off some 11 or 12 year old boy. She was the first and only person I've explained the concept of Minor Attraction as an orientation to, and she was completely understanding.

As a father of a young daughter myself, I could never think of her that way though. And if she develops a crush on me, I hope all it does is solidify in her mind that she won't accept any man she sees as lesser than me, and I set high standards. She doesn't have to feel jealousy over her mom getting my affection, as her mom basically dipped a couple years back and hasn't been around since. And my love life hasn't exactly being fortuitous lately, other than the bar hookups I'd never turn into relationships.

Im curious though. From a girls perspective, at that age, what if your friends were crushing on your dad? How would that have made you feel?