The worst thing about being a map

[mrlolicon93]

The worst thing about being a map is that the more you age and get older as the years go by it becomes more difficult to actually connect with and relate to children despite us being attracted to them.

An adult man in his 20s or even early 30s is not that far removed from a young girl of today's generation but a man in his 50s onward is and this will be the case for many young pedos one day too.

Are we just destined to die alone?

[Fragment]

That is something I've thought quite a bit about before. Even if laws changed and society changed and we were allowed to have our dream relationships, would we actually be happy?

There's a degree of inherent loneliness in being minor-attracted. If we do have temporary, rather than long term relationships, then eventually we will probably reach an age where we don't have anyone by our side. It's one reason to consider marriage and a family. Even if you're exclusive. The sex fades in any relationship, but if you can find someone you love, despite not having much attraction for them, you'll have someone by your side and people around your deathbed.

I guess the other option that a lot of BLs took was becoming "centers of community". Priests. Principals. Other positions where you have a "community" to take the place of your "family". You can grow old, be single, but still be cared for and have people around you.

[FairBlueLove]

It is funny that I wanted to start a thread with a similar title, which I posted a while ago in the Italian section on BLOL. The "worst thing" (or "greatest drama" per direct translation) in that case essentially rotated around the sparseness of MAPs and AAMs.

While for obvious reasons we tend to think mostly about MAP issues related to the society and legality, it is a good "exercise" to think about the bare human issues of kid-adult relationships.

I think that Fragment's answer is a great one. I would add that there are kids who have platonic attraction to adults, even old men - I was one of them. If we were lucky enough to find someone like that, it would bring a lot of happiness to our lives because they care for us, even if it's not in a romantic way. The problem, also in this case, is sparseness.

On the other side, consider that even most adult-adult relationships don't last forever, and not just because of lack of attraction. While being MAP is for sure an exacerbating condition, the risk of dying alone is more diffused than ever in present times.

[BLueRibbon]

I am personally struggling with this issue. It's one of several reasons why I'm doing Mu.

I did something else that I thought would make me feel better (not related to MAP activism), but it just made everything worse.

[mrlolicon93]

I am personally struggling with this issue. It's one of several reasons why I'm doing Mu.

I did something else that I thought would make me feel better (not related to MAP activism), but it just made everything worse.

I know how you feel.

[JessPa1ge]

Not being able to act out my Attractions without the consequences of the "normal" world

[Lennon72]

Ignorance is the problem that I have. People who don't even know me are out there judging me.

[Xuxa Nuit]

Being single.
She WILL break your heart and you're crazy if you think she won't.

[lightseeker]

Are we just destined to die alone?

Yes, and we share this destiny with many other people, like gays and lesbians, heterosexuals without wife, husband, and kids, and many more. It's a good choice to learn to live self-sufficiently. Best outcome might be to have been friends to some boy(s) or girl(s) in the past when we're young, and still be friends with them later on. Then they can still be part of your old age. Or, as Fragment mentioned, build a community which is not your biological family but feels like one.