The Boy/Girl Thread!

[BLueRibbon]

I wrote this for BoyChat, but I'm copy and pasting it here. Obviously posts by GLs are very welcome.

There's been a bit of lamenting over the absence of boy-related posts on 'BoomerChat' recently, so I thought - obvious dangers aside - I'd make a start. Should others decline to partake, don't complain about activism-related issues dominating the board!

I started a new job not too long ago, working mostly with 6th graders (peak awesomeness for me), and they are super nice kids despite the popular stereotype of their peer group being the flag-bearers of young adolescent angst. I really like the girls (non-physically), too. They are not the best-looking group of boys overall, but character is more important than appearance to an older me.

I've already started to become friendly with some of them, doing sports together informally, exchanging phone numbers, having them come up to me and ask if I'll hang out with them (at work) later, eyes full of love and excitement.

They are still boys, however. That means slapping their friends' asses as a joke, taking their shirts off, one boy trying to pull down another's pants with killjoy BLR professionally telling him to stop (why did I do that?).

I think it's only a matter of time before some of these boys become YFs. It is nice to be loved.

Who's next?

As this is a public board, please be careful not to reveal too many details about your life/friendships!

[Aspire6]

For my own safety, I will be vague about details of the girls specifically as I am a very paranoid person, but they do exist and are the cutest and most divine beings in my eyes

I have a few neighbor girls, all below the age of 10, who I get to interact with on occasion. I get to watch them play outside (there are boys too but I don't pay much attention to them), draw with chalk, jump on the trampoline, bike around, play tag, etc etc and I am so glad I get to experience it. Especially when the weather gets at least decent because they're outside constantly and they wear some of the cutest clothes too which makes it all the more enjoyable for me!

Just last week one of the younger ones (she's one of the youngest) called me a really cute name when I was talking with her parents, I won't repeat it here, but it made me very happy inside. I just love them so much. Makes me so warm and fuzzy inside seeing them having fun and getting the chance to chat with them too

[BLueRibbon]

For my own safety, I will be vague about details of the girls specifically as I am a very paranoid person, but they do exist and are the cutest and most divine beings in my eyes

I have a few neighbor girls, all below the age of 10, who I get to interact with on occasion. I get to watch them play outside (there are boys too but I don't pay much attention to them), draw with chalk, jump on the trampoline, bike around, play tag, etc etc and I am so glad I get to experience it. Especially when the weather gets at least decent because they're outside constantly and they wear some of the cutest clothes too which makes it all the more enjoyable for me!

Just last week one of the younger ones (she's one of the youngest) called me a really cute name when I was talking with her parents, I won't repeat it here, but it made me very happy inside. I just love them so much. Makes me so warm and fuzzy inside seeing them having fun and getting the chance to chat with them too

Nice! Apart from the part about not paying attention to boys. Hopefully there's a friendly BL living nearby!

Yes, it's always better to be vague about details, and I will add that to the original post.

[Aspire6]

Hopefully there's a friendly BL living nearby!

Unsure if there is one, I'm out to nobody in my life and don't know of anyone who is a MAP near me. I'm sure there's gotta be one or two others at least given statistics, but they are likely also in hiding. I'll watch the boys a little and comment some of the funny things they do!

[WavesInEternity]

My life in general, and my physical health in particular, have been too bad in recent years for me to really interact with little girls in my preferred age range. However, I do have several happy memories I can talk about here.

One of the most striking relates to a dance performance I attended when I was 17. I had been invited, along with my mother and sisters, by a female cousin of the same age as myself whom I got along with quite well (I was really cuddly with her when she was 13-14; she'd let me hold her on my lap, clearly realizing how fond I was of her petite, slender body and near-flat chest).

What I didn't know is that it wasn't just her group that would be dancing that night. The entire student body of the dance school was performing, split into age groups. My cousin was in the oldest group, the older teens.

The first to perform were very young children, generally too young to be attractive for me, and too clumsy for their performance to be aesthetically pleasing, although it was charming in its own way.

The second group, however, were 9 to 11 year olds. Nearly all girls, more than a dozen of them. All with the slender, miniature bodies of ballerinas. I was high on cannabis, as I was most of the time around that age, which enhanced my appreciation of the music and the visuals alike. I was transfixed by the graceful movements of the little girls in leotards. And I was most definitely very aroused. I felt tears of joy welling up in my eyes. Heavens! They were so cute. (I actually had the opportunity to mingle with them a bit after the event was over, and they were just as adorable up close.)

Two more performances followed, my cousin's group being the last, but my focus was no longer there. I was still thinking of those little girls... and the memory is still vivid in my mind today.

[BLueRibbon]

Thank you for your story, Waves. Must have been a great experience for a teen MAP.

[BLueRibbon]

One of my favorite boys asked to take a photo of me today, so I suggested that he take a photo of us together, and his friend joined in. These are the two boys who excitedly asked me to play with them last week. The photo looked super adorable, and I asked the boy to send it to me, which he did.

I sat there chatting casually with him and other boys for around an hour.

[PorcelainLark]

>mfw I haven't spoken or interacted with anyone in my preferred AoA for over five years

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I don't get how to not be socially awkward around children, so I avoid them, even though they cheer me up. The only interactions I've had which weren't accidental, were back when I was 11. I'm close to 30 now.

The closest thing to an interaction in recent years was this 8 year old girl who I almost walked into when leaving a shop. She went around me. I'd forgotten how appealing the height of little girls is. Almost like a living doll, delicate.

When I sleep, sometimes I take a pillow and imagine it's a little girl. I go to sleep on my side, imagining spooning the girl in front of me, pressed close to me. It makes me feel so peaceful, like everything is right in the world.

[BLueRibbon]

I don't get how to not be socially awkward around children, so I avoid them, even though they cheer me up. The only interactions I've had which weren't accidental, were back when I was 11. I'm close to 30 now.

I can't be certain for girls, but in the case of boys, there are some who really appreciate adults showing interest in them and will gravitate toward you primarily because you don't keep them at arm's length and try to get rid of them. BLs don't pick our YFs. The boy who has attached himself to me in the latest iteration is not the most attractive of the group. He just kind of started following me and, being a BL, I of course returned the interest. He has a super sweet personality, thankfully.

You do at least need to have some kind of personality. I make a lot of silly jokes, including self-deprecating ones. Some of these jokes push at the boundaries of what is acceptable in the environment, although none of them are sexual. Just be that one adult who stands out a bit, and responds well to attempts at building a friendship. You also need to have time, so you can pretty much forget it if you're doing a very tough job (as I did for some time, regrettably).

[Aspire6]

I can't be certain for girls, but in the case of boys, there are some who really appreciate adults showing interest in them and will gravitate toward you primarily because you don't keep them at arm's length and try to get rid of them. BLs don't pick our YFs.

You do at least need to have some kind of personality. I make a lot of silly jokes, including self-deprecating ones. Some of these jokes push at the boundaries of what is acceptable in the environment, although none of them are sexual. Just be that one adult who stands out a bit, and responds well to attempts at building a friendship. You also need to have time, so you can pretty much forget it if you're doing a very tough job (as I did for some time, regrettably).

I can attest to the girls side of it. If you show them respect and are at least interested in what they're doing as well as listen to them, they will quickly become interested in showing or telling you the next thing they did over and over again. It's the best! It takes time, but you can build that friendship and be a good role-model for them as they grow up.

Keeping boundaries is good too, I like to pretend there's a parent watching at all times even if I'm alone with a little girl. I know I wouldn't do anything anyway, but I just like redundancy there.