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Objectophile wrote: Sat Dec 06, 2025 8:22 am I don't feel actual guilt over the way I treated people. I only feel guilty because it could affect my reputation, which did happen in real life. If you mistreat one person, even on accident, they will tell their circles and you'll be a pariah.

Sounds more like anxiety than guilt.

Since both our replies discussed superficial appearance, I'll address it. I am pretty open about my objectophilia. Sooner or later, all my friends and partners will know. Sometimes I have been shunned, sometimes they do not care much. However, I have learned that normies' general consensus of objectophilia is that it's a pitiful mental issue. If it does not affect them, they will not care much. If it affects them, they will withdraw. As such, I am hypervigilant of how I present my paraphilia. I don't want to stop being open about it, but I have to hide the unsightly parts. If they knew that my object dating preferences transfers over to my human sexuality, it will raise eyebrows.

That's where questions about ethics begin. How differently do you present yourself from how you actually are when trying to form relationships?

I am aware that my post indicates a lot of internalised shame. I am very glad that this forum is explicitly pro-paraphilia, so it can counteract the shame I have.

I wouldn't say we're completely pro-paraphilia, it's more because MAPs are so heavily stigmatized we're not really in a position to act superior to other abnormal sexual behavior/attractions.

In that case, my objectophilia is actually a lifesaver because objects don't trigger my attachment issues as much as people. I actually asked my therapist how to eliminate the 30% human attraction, but he was appalled. He says that I am shutting myself from one facet of life.

Well, I don't really think changing your attraction is possible, so it kind of makes sense from my perspective. If a left-handed person went to a therapist and asked to be made right-handed, you'd probably see the problem as being unwillingness to accept being left-handed, not being left-handed itself. If there's a part of yourself you can't change but strongly want to get rid of, that can be a problem.

In my mind, becoming exclusive is still the best way to treat my relationship issues. I treat most people like crap but I treat all objects like the divine gods they are. I wanted to discuss if my non-exclusive objectophilia is causing impairments in my human relationships, but the therapist didn't believe it lol. I still think my non-exclusivity is an issue and I would like to become an exclusive objectophile. Most people want to eliminate their paraphilia, but I'm the only one who wants to become exclusive.

What will you do if you can't stop also being attracted to humans?