MAP Forum

Grunko wrote: Fri Feb 28, 2025 8:56 am I think what may need to be emphasised is “being attracted to someone is not the same as abusing them.”

I thought Non-offending MAP’s is meant to make it clear that MAP’s are good people with no harmful intentions and respects laws (even if they don’t agree or find them unreasonable)

Yes, this is clear. But again, "abusing" and "offending" would never be used in the "thought process" of a Pro-c MAP, because, if there is choice, there is no abuse and no offense.

Here is an example. It is not unusual that some boy, especially during its puberty/adolescence, could show some forms of affection to adult friends, which could be classified as erotic. For pro-c MAPs, saying "no young man, I'm sorry", is not accompanied by the though "I don't want to abuse this boy" (as an anti-c might think), but "I have to follow the law, and avoid the possible consequences for me and for the boy due to stigma. I'm sorry that, for these reasons, I cannot share a beautiful, positive intimate moment with this boy".

Fragment wrote: Thu Feb 27, 2025 9:26 am “NOMAP” is still a fundamentally “defensive” position because you’re saying what you AREN’T, not what you ARE.

I call them Teleiophiles. Though it excludes Gerontophiles. Maybe AAP (Adult Attracted Person) would do?

Even the term “non-offending” has become nuanced. A lot of the anti-contact community doesn’t consider sexual offenses as “offending” unless they involve hands-on contact.

In my opinion yes, so long as there's no penetration. There's plenty other ways for love and affection. Use your imagination

CL2025 wrote: Mon Mar 03, 2025 3:40 am In my opinion yes, so long as there's no penetration. There's plenty other ways for love and affection. Use your imagination

That's not what is being discussed here.

Grunko wrote: Tue Feb 25, 2025 10:44 pm I wanted to know if it is possible to be a Pro-contact MAP and still be a non-offending MAP at the same time. Because what if you are a non-offending MAP who has no harmful intentions but you are more pro-contact stance particularly towards intergenerational friendships/relationships between teenagers and adults of all ages. Is it true that all non-offending MAP’s are anti contact or is that a misconception. I know a lot of MAP groups like Virped.org, MAP-support club etc. are all Anti Contact, but are there any that support Pro-contact MAPs.

I would say yes. Just because you are pro-C does not mean you are incapible of following societal norms or think they do not apply. Plus, very much depends on what you mean by contact. Do you mean only physical contact, or is only emotional contact, (conversation and whatnot. )