Re: Proud or not?
Posted: Sun Mar 16, 2025 5:28 pm
I'm proud to be a nepio...nonexclusive.propedosexparents wrote: Sun Mar 16, 2025 10:16 am My lady and I are both very proud very pansexual. AoA for both 2-62
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Re: Proud or not?
Posted: Mon Mar 17, 2025 12:11 pm
Still inwardly proud.
I know what it means to be a map. To me it means I notice kids, listen to them, empathise with them, care for them more than many non-maps. I see kids as whole people, people worthy of listening to and respecting.
I see many non-maps who have no time for kids, get annoyed by them, consider them unworthy of having a voice or opinion, see them as annoyances. I've had a few parents say they like how patient I am with kids and how I have a way of clicking with them and bringing out the best in them. My own kids always tell me about things going on in their lives but are less open to their mother and my wife knows it and will ask me to talk to the kids when she wants them to do something and knows they'll fight and resist her. I've told her many times that it's just about talking to them respectfully, reasoning with them and explaining why they should do something rather than barking orders ladened with threats and consequences.
I believe that being a map makes me a better parent for the above reason and a better friend and guardian for kids. I feel that's a great gift from God and something to be proud of.
But I'm not outwardly proud about it because the world hates maps and would hate anything positive that a map could offer.
I know what it means to be a map. To me it means I notice kids, listen to them, empathise with them, care for them more than many non-maps. I see kids as whole people, people worthy of listening to and respecting.
I see many non-maps who have no time for kids, get annoyed by them, consider them unworthy of having a voice or opinion, see them as annoyances. I've had a few parents say they like how patient I am with kids and how I have a way of clicking with them and bringing out the best in them. My own kids always tell me about things going on in their lives but are less open to their mother and my wife knows it and will ask me to talk to the kids when she wants them to do something and knows they'll fight and resist her. I've told her many times that it's just about talking to them respectfully, reasoning with them and explaining why they should do something rather than barking orders ladened with threats and consequences.
I believe that being a map makes me a better parent for the above reason and a better friend and guardian for kids. I feel that's a great gift from God and something to be proud of.
But I'm not outwardly proud about it because the world hates maps and would hate anything positive that a map could offer.
Re: Proud or not?
Posted: Sat Mar 22, 2025 5:53 am
I am very proud to be a map because it allows me to love and respect children in ways that most people could never dare to.
I wonder if those who say they are simply unashamed are missing the point of pride. To me, pride isn't about elevating yourself above others or taking credit for something that you have no agency in. To me, it's about pushing back against the constant flood of hate and misinformation about us. It isn't enough to not hate ourselves. If we want to fight for our rights and prove to the world that we deserve respect and equality, then we have to find the good in our unique kind of love. I challenge those of you who've read this far into the thread to find one quality about your youth-love that brings joy to you or the people around you. I'm sure there's something.
I wonder if those who say they are simply unashamed are missing the point of pride. To me, pride isn't about elevating yourself above others or taking credit for something that you have no agency in. To me, it's about pushing back against the constant flood of hate and misinformation about us. It isn't enough to not hate ourselves. If we want to fight for our rights and prove to the world that we deserve respect and equality, then we have to find the good in our unique kind of love. I challenge those of you who've read this far into the thread to find one quality about your youth-love that brings joy to you or the people around you. I'm sure there's something.
Re: Proud or not?
Posted: Sat Mar 22, 2025 4:10 pm
Not proud it's more excited to tell people online what I am and what I like. Shame and guilt gone now after long years of being attracted to girls it gets me excited telling i love little girls and I like the words pedophile and hebephile I like how they make me feel 
Re: Proud or not?
Posted: Mon Apr 14, 2025 6:52 pm
Not one or the other. I don't know it just feels normal to me 
Re: Proud or not?
Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2025 12:18 am
Well, as a non-exclusive teleiophile, you are quite normal.Doxinator14 wrote: Mon Apr 14, 2025 6:52 pm Not one or the other. I don't know it just feels normal to me
By the time you reach the age of 18, your desires won't even feel "weird" at all anymore. For MAPs, it's the opposite... most of us realize the nature of our preferences by our mid-teens, but they often become ever more distressing as the gap between our loved ones and ourselves inevitably grows. I hope that you won't ever give up on changing society when you're no longer personally oppressed by the absurd laws of our erotophobic culture.
Re: Proud or not?
Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2025 12:30 am
I feel very similar to this, minus the parent part. I do not have kids.Outis wrote: Mon Mar 17, 2025 12:11 pm Still inwardly proud.
I know what it means to be a map. To me it means I notice kids, listen to them, empathise with them, care for them more than many non-maps. I see kids as whole people, people worthy of listening to and respecting.
I see many non-maps who have no time for kids, get annoyed by them, consider them unworthy of having a voice or opinion, see them as annoyances. I've had a few parents say they like how patient I am with kids and how I have a way of clicking with them and bringing out the best in them. My own kids always tell me about things going on in their lives but are less open to their mother and my wife knows it and will ask me to talk to the kids when she wants them to do something and knows they'll fight and resist her. I've told her many times that it's just about talking to them respectfully, reasoning with them and explaining why they should do something rather than barking orders ladened with threats and consequences.
I believe that being a map makes me a better parent for the above reason and a better friend and guardian for kids. I feel that's a great gift from God and something to be proud of.
But I'm not outwardly proud about it because the world hates maps and would hate anything positive that a map could offer.
Having accepted my attractions as part of who I am, it means a lot to me to say I'm proud to be myself.
Am I proud enough to come out? Absolutely not, people witch-hunt others for just admitting an attraction and I'm not going to risk that myself. The world is always surprised when they find out someone they know was outed as a minor-attracted person, often surprised how well they hid it. They don't understand or feel pity for how we have to hide it or just our existence.
Re: Proud or not?
Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2025 7:44 am
Very well put. Society has built up such an odd caricature for what a pedophile is that when they are confronted with the reality they such struggle to accept it at times. Society has done a real job on maps.Aspire6 wrote: Tue Apr 15, 2025 12:30 amI feel very similar to this, minus the parent part. I do not have kids.Outis wrote: Mon Mar 17, 2025 12:11 pm Still inwardly proud.
I know what it means to be a map. To me it means I notice kids, listen to them, empathise with them, care for them more than many non-maps. I see kids as whole people, people worthy of listening to and respecting.
I see many non-maps who have no time for kids, get annoyed by them, consider them unworthy of having a voice or opinion, see them as annoyances. I've had a few parents say they like how patient I am with kids and how I have a way of clicking with them and bringing out the best in them. My own kids always tell me about things going on in their lives but are less open to their mother and my wife knows it and will ask me to talk to the kids when she wants them to do something and knows they'll fight and resist her. I've told her many times that it's just about talking to them respectfully, reasoning with them and explaining why they should do something rather than barking orders ladened with threats and consequences.
I believe that being a map makes me a better parent for the above reason and a better friend and guardian for kids. I feel that's a great gift from God and something to be proud of.
But I'm not outwardly proud about it because the world hates maps and would hate anything positive that a map could offer.
Having accepted my attractions as part of who I am, it means a lot to me to say I'm proud to be myself.
Am I proud enough to come out? Absolutely not, people witch-hunt others for just admitting an attraction and I'm not going to risk that myself. The world is always surprised when they find out someone they know was outed as a minor-attracted person, often surprised how well they hid it. They don't understand or feel pity for how we have to hide it or just our existence.
Re: Proud or not?
Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2025 6:38 pm
Dude really funny like I can be at the beach with my bros and 1 will bump me on the shoulder and look at a girl of our age in her bathing suit and he will say like « bro look at her she is in one of my class she looks so good » but I will be too distracted by her mother likeWavesInEternity wrote: Tue Apr 15, 2025 12:18 amWell, as a non-exclusive teleiophile, you are quite normal.Doxinator14 wrote: Mon Apr 14, 2025 6:52 pm Not one or the other. I don't know it just feels normal to me
By the time you reach the age of 18, your desires won't even feel "weird" at all anymore. For MAPs, it's the opposite... most of us realize the nature of our preferences by our mid-teens, but they often become ever more distressing as the gap between our loved ones and ourselves inevitably grows. I hope that you won't ever give up on changing society when you're no longer personally oppressed by the absurd laws of our erotophobic culture.
so yeah when I'm 18 it will not be a « problem » and I def will not give up !Re: Proud or not?
Posted: Thu Apr 17, 2025 12:03 pm
I like this! My thoughts exactly... I'm proud to be a caring, loving and compassionate human being. I'm proud to be someone that kids are drawn to and vice-versa. I feel bad for myself and others who add a lot of love and kindness to the world, yet are openly shamed, mocked and despised.Harlan wrote: Fri Aug 30, 2024 1:54 pm Any attraction is based on the desire to give Care, Joy, Love. Like any adequate person, I have no desire to cause pain and suffering to anyone. I am proud of who I am. I am NOT a predator, NOT a sadist and NOT a rapist.
I'm proud to be who I am.. and who I am is a minor attracted person.