MAP Forum

One thing that's really been eating away at me recently is how the persecution of MAPs is in part predicated by the belief that we have some absurd drive to sadistically inflict harm on children.

For one of Mu's upcoming articles, I would like to focus on positive platonic friendships involving MAPs and young people. I was originally planning to do another study, but I think a collection of true stories might work better. I will still post a summary of findings based on the feedback I receive.

Without risking your safety, please let me know about your positive platonic relationships with children or teens.

Please also state whether you would prefer to be cited by your username or as a member of this forum.

I've got a story.

Any time my dad's friends would visit, they'd always bring their kids, and put me in charge of watching them. This happened all through my high school and college years. So would spend a lot of time with these kids, playing games, watching shows, generally keeping them occupied. But I came to enjoy my time with them and they did as well.

Due to some circumstances I moved away from there for about a decade. But went back to visit a few years ago. Those kids are all adults now and when I saw them again they all had such fond memories of our time together. And they thanked me for just being a friend to them. Treating them with respect. One girl in particular now finds herself occasionally looking after this other little girl and she told me "I try to treat her the same way you treated me, with love and respect." That warmed my heart.

That sounds awesome, Rooster.

I will add one of my stories.

Around ten years ago, I had a group of YFs I knew via work. They would visit my place and we would go on lots of outdoor adventures. The parents were very happy about our friendship, although one mother was constantly embarrassed about how often her son 'disturbed' me by showing up at my door. Unfortunately, I wasn't very careful about hiding my sexual orientation at the time, and despite not committing any crimes, it became clear that I was a BL. Nothing terrible happened, but remaining friends with the boys within that community was untenable, and so I really had to leave. My employer, the children, and the parents actually wanted me to stay.

After I moved, the parents allowed their boys to visit me and sleep over in the new city. We continued to meet up every year as they grew into young adults, and one of them who now lives some distance away even got on an airplane to come and hang out last year. They are now legal drinking age and so we had a drink together last time we met, although they were not impressed by my fancy wines and whiskies! One of the boys I met last year is currently studying for a very respectable career, and another is just following his dream. They speak excellent English and have a pretty strong understanding of world issues as a result of our friendship, and this will stand them in good stead for their future.

So much for 'throwing them on the scrapheap', as insinuated in Alex Renton's disgusting podcasts.

BLueRibbon wrote: Thu Jan 23, 2025 12:06 pm Without risking your safety, please let me know about your positive platonic relationships with children or teens.

What about the love between parents and children. Teacher can also have it with their students, one can add friends and mentors to this list.

PS. Instead of watching YouTube at this scheduled time, i decided to invest it in reading all recent posts in the MAP forum

You can cite me by username.

When I was about eleven, I lived in something of a poor neighborhood. For some reason, I just didn't get along with many of the other neighbors. Didn't care for them - even the ones who were alright. However, there was this one boy who was, let's say, about six or seven. Lived just a little bit away, and I would while away my hours with him. We would stay up late at night watching adult cartoons (think Family Guy, American Dad, etc.) which neither of us were considered 'old enough' to watch. All this on an air mattress that would deflate in the middle of the night. It was a lovely time.

I remember, we were both real into creepypastas and internet horror stories. Thing is, sometimes one of us would need to walk home, and usually, we would walk with the other back. It was no distance at all, hardly a minutes walk. Yet we had to go near these trees, and we would always jolt past them like a creature might lung out at us if we so much as looked into the darkness. Granted, I would still be scared of the dark like that, but, it felt more vivid back then.

So much of my time was spent just goofing off, climbing around, poking our noses where we weren't supposed to, watching WWE, failing to land flips on trampolines, etc. I remember climbing around in this abandoned little house, or shack, and trying to see what was in the attic. We were both too short, so I'd lift him up and pray that our combined height, with the right positioning, would maaaaaybe let us see its secret contents. We didn't stay friends after I was thirteen, but, I wish I had. It was a great time that, in hindsight, I took for granted.

It wasn't until after I turned fourteen that I considered that my friendship with him might be an indication of my sexuality. We were both young, although he significantly more so. I didn't really fully grasp what made someone a "pedophile," just that they existed. I do sometimes wonder what would've happened, and how I might've been perceived, had we never stopped being friends. I could've been seventeen, and he twelve. Maybe I would've never came out to certain folk, not wanting to risk the friendship. But that would be a different life!

When I was in my late teens I was in a school, in the time where all grades were out in the auditorium I sat in the seating and at my side there was a girl who was around 10, she was playing a game and to me it looked she was dead serious about making it, so I started to tell her ways she could do what she wanted, she tried it and eventually got to do it.

After that she talked to me, she told me many stories and I would tell her what I thought of what she was telling me, sometimes she asked me about how to do some things or what did I thought of something she did, I anwered her and she would try it until she was happy with the results, we shared many things to each other about our likes and the things we knew.

I sometimes noticed that our relationship was looking strange to the children in her grade and the other children in the school, but I think she did not care about that and the times when we were both out we would pick a calm space and sit together and talk or sometimes play things she liked like we were best friends.

At the end my time in that school ended and I had to go, but I hope those times really made her happy and she stays that way through her life, to me those times were of true friendship and they them and now warm my heart to think how she considered me as her friend.

I would prefer to be cited as member of the forum

Here is a true Story.
There was this friend who was having a birthday party and invited a group of adult males of variety of different ages to his place. They went to an inflatable aqua park and then had a meal out at a burger place. They went with his family (mother, older brother) and a 10 year old girl (their neighbour) and her mother joined them. Please note the guys are all special needs. The girl wanted to hang out with them and the guys had no issue with a 10 year old girl joining them- it was actually good fun and everyone enjoyed having her with them. She was splashing them, pushing the guys into the water, messing around with them, and screaming with laughter and enjoyment. When they got back to their house, the girl was tickling and having a pillow fight with the adult males. They both looked like they were enjoying themselves. One of the guys felt a bit ashamed of messing around with a 10 year old girl but it seemed deep inside they loved that. It was so memorable. This felt like a good opportunity to prove that such friendships and interactions between children and adults could be beautiful, innocent and harmless.

Thanks to everyone for your contributions. Please keep them coming!