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It's really hard to find friends IRL who think the same as me! I wanna get AAM friends and MAP friends that I can hang out with in person but I have no idea how to find people like me! Does anyone have any tips on how to find/male friends like that?

Please note that this is not a dating service and we're not going to help you find MAP friends.

To find friends your age, I suggest joining a local sports or hobby club.

Aqua_Blood wrote: Sun Feb 02, 2025 11:37 pm It's really hard to find friends IRL who think the same as me! I wanna get AAM friends and MAP friends that I can hang out with in person but I have no idea how to find people like me! Does anyone have any tips on how to find/male friends like that?

.. don't we all! Lol. With that said, it's sad to say.. but it's just too dangerous to try to meet people IRL.
Law enforcement is always lurking. (in my humble opinion)
And although meeting ppl is not illegal, it opens a can of worms you might not want.

I've seen a few posts on here where ppl were claiming to be an AAM, looking for a Map friend. I could be entirely wrong and I feel terrible if I am. But if I had to bet, I'd say it's law enforcement, or vigilantes trying to catch Maps slipping.

However, the organization called b4uAct, has held various seminars and conferences where Maps and Health care professionals meet to discuss and dissect issues regarding pedophilia.

I think they are held in the Baltimore area. That could be a place, at the very least, to be in an environment where we are accepted and more understood.

Other than that, places like this is a great way to express and not feel so alone.

I am sorry I do not want to sound stupid, but I am kinda new. What is a AAM?

Someone wrote: Sat Feb 08, 2025 5:58 am I am sorry I do not want to sound stupid, but I am kinda new. What is a AAM?

https://www.map-union.org/encyclopedia/glossary#AAM

Adult-Attracted Minor (AAM)

A controversial term intended to describe a person below the age of majority who experiences or expresses sexual, physical or romantic attraction towards a person above it. AAMs nevertheless exist, and are frequently acknowledged on social media.

I'm sorry you're having a hard time finding MAP and AAM friends IRL. I know how lonely it can feel sometimes.

I started collecting Alice in Wonderland merch a couple years ago, and often wear Alice shirts out in public. It's a great dog whistle. So far, no one has commented on it, but I also don't really go outside much. I did find an advertisement online lately of a queer-friendly hairdresser not far away who also collects Alice stuff and has an Alice themed salon. I'm planning to visit there sometime soon, tell them I also collect Alice stuff, and maybe drop some more hints.

I suppose MAP flag pins could also work, but might be trickier because antis know that one. Non-maps are usually oblivious to the deeper meaning of Alice.

Apart from that, it could be worthwhile to meet people in communities that overlap with the MAP community. Back when I came out privately to some trans friends, I got an incredible amount of "I feel the same way"s. I've also been approached online by another MAP once for being openly into age regression and ABDL. I think you can probably find a lot of us there. You should still be careful when looking in these communities, though. Both communities I mentioned have plenty of antis as well.

For AAM friends, I don't have any advice apart from echoing Justincredible's words about it being too dangerous to trust claims online of people being AAMs looking for MAP friends, which is sad because some of these could be genuine as well.

I hope you can find some MAP or AAM friends soon. Good luck with your search!

Fragment wrote: Sat Feb 08, 2025 6:35 am

Someone wrote: Sat Feb 08, 2025 5:58 am I am sorry I do not want to sound stupid, but I am kinda new. What is a AAM?

https://www.map-union.org/encyclopedia/glossary#AAM

Adult-Attracted Minor (AAM)

A controversial term intended to describe a person below the age of majority who experiences or expresses sexual, physical or romantic attraction towards a person above it. AAMs nevertheless exist, and are frequently acknowledged on social media.

OK Thank you