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her husband is my age. he was charged in 2023 with many (20 i believe) counts of Possession of Sexual Abuse Material of a Child as young as the age of 5.

i went no contact on morality coupled with the fact i have a 4 year old daughter.

since we found out and went no contact in spring of this year, i have faced nothing but guilt tripping from some family members, mainly my grandmother. she went to visit my sister this weekend and this morning told me that she is planning a trip which she wants my other sister and i to attend because “sister is struggling with the fact you two don’t talk to her. i think you need to get over whatever It is you’re feeling about this because that’s your sister. you don’t have to have a relationship with him, but she’s your family”.

i have already had immense guilt over whether or not i did the right thing in going no contact. i’ve never had to navigate something like this before. i would much rather have contact with my sister, but that puts my daughter one step closer to her husband and i would never forgive myself if something happened. no one has criticized her for marrying a pedophile, but i get criticized weekly for not talking to her because of it. so, am i the asshole for going to contact? i guess i’m also looking for advice on how to navigate no contact and staying strong on my boundaries. signed, a recovering people pleaser.

NTA but I would give grandma an ultimatum. Tell her that you are not jeopardizing the well being of your daughter by hanging out with a known sex offender and if grandma keeps bringing it up then you’ll have to start reevaluating grandmas involvement with your daughter.

Yep grandma backing up a pedo when she knows you have a young daughter is enough evidence for me to know she's dangerous and can't be trusted. Especially around children.

ZVOTD wrote: ↑Thu Aug 08, 2024 3:08 pm Reddit is such a cesspool and is one of the worst social media websites when it comes to anti-MAP content. You think that it wouldn't be that bad since it claims that it is a website that supports "acceptance and tolerance." However, you can find entire threads dedicated to wishing death to us and calling us terrible names.

ZeroXJoker wrote: ↑Thu Aug 08, 2024 4:48 pm My old account on Reddit got a 3 day suspension because I said it was fine if a 15 or 16 year old had a relationships with someone in their 20's. Now one subreddit on there that was eventually banned I had came out on there as a MAP on my old account they accepted me there until the subreddit went away.

ZVOTD wrote: ↑Thu Aug 08, 2024 6:39 pm

ZeroXJoker wrote: ↑Thu Aug 08, 2024 4:48 pm My old account on Reddit got a 3 day suspension because I said it was fine if a 15 or 16 year old had a relationships with someone in their 20's. Now one subreddit on there that was eventually banned I had came out on there as a MAP on my old account they accepted me there until the subreddit went away.

I actually hid a map flag as well as a link to newgon in my profile picture on reddit. So far nobody has really noticed it but I hope a couple people check out the link eventually.