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Rila Ogawa, lead singer and guitarist of screamo group Febuary, accused frontman of Kind Of Like Spitting, Ben Barnett, of grooming and sexual manipulation, as reported by Lambgoat.

Ogawa posted about her alleged experiences with Barnett in an Instagram story, accompanied by a 23-page Google Doc that linked to a timeline of their interactions.

“I’ve been scared to post this for a very long time, and sharing my story wasn’t even an option until recent thought,” the singer wrote. “It has been eating me up for months now, even making life harder to live. Seeing Ben [Barnett] have support from so many impressionable people, especially young women, not knowing his true nature. I will not be silent any longer.”

It just looks like flirting?

The US is fucking crazy.

Holy shit...

I see two possible situations here. Either all those "It has been eating me up for months now, even making life harder to live" and "Everything he has said and put me through has taken a toll on me mentally. Sometimes I can’t sleep at night" things are true or they aren't.

If it's false, it means that she is lying to harm the career of someone she dislikes, to boost her own... or both. And she has gotten away with it, and people are acclaiming her.

If it's true, it means that there is a social phenomenon that is reaching new and increasingly worrying limits. A social phenomenon that consists of convincing people that they should experience as much suffering as possible due to social interactions that could be, and should be, completely harmless. A way of generating suffering where there should be none.

I don't know which one is worse.