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I am 17 and am a AAM and a MAP and well i have been thinking alot about how if I could have been in a relationship how It would have gone when I "outgrew" them. I mean If I were ever in a situation like that I would love them probably forever as well my attraction is like 8-40 so I mean i would always love my partner. but yeah I just wanna ask other maps and aam (especially ones with a stricter age zone) how would they feel when they grow up

Hey Im an aam too, this is one of the things I really worry about being with adults is that they’ll “outgrow” me. But I know I would date someone as they age, but the idea it isn’t mutual is honestly something that scares me.

This is one of those things that depend strongly on the individual in question. Everybody approaches this differently. Most wouldn't just drop you like a rock though. At worst, you can remain good friends.

Well there that, but I think it need to be made more aware that regardless if a relationship is intergenerational or not, very rarely does it last literally forever. That is definitely more of an exception than a rule.

Starlit wrote: Thu Dec 25, 2025 11:23 am Hey Im an aam too, this is one of the things I really worry about being with adults is that they’ll “outgrow” me. But I know I would date someone as they age, but the idea it isn’t mutual is honestly something that scares me.

It depends on where each MAPs aoa is for this hypothetical relationship. And if they are exclusive or not to minors.

I think this also depends a lot on how aging is transformed by medicine in the coming decades, it's not inconceivable that people could appear to be an age different than they actually are if we're lucky enough to experience those technological advancements in our lifetime. Personally, although I like youthful appearances a lot more I really do like experience and wisdom in a partner.

I have also had the same thoughts myself pretty from 10 to 28 1/2 is my age range and I just would hate it if I wake up one day and the one I love and desire has aged is all saggy and stuff.
The perfect my ideal of marriage would have been around my age lmao when I was a kid,but as I get older and now it’s dawned on that this is the downfall of marriage as you get old together your partner loses the youthful beauty you once loved and worshipped.

Starlit wrote: Thu Dec 25, 2025 11:23 am Hey Im an aam too, this is one of the things I really worry about being with adults is that they’ll “outgrow” me. But I know I would date someone as they age, but the idea it isn’t mutual is honestly something that scares me.

Hi starlit what is your age limit?

Kylelomaz wrote: Sat Dec 27, 2025 6:56 am

Starlit wrote: Thu Dec 25, 2025 11:23 am Hey Im an aam too, this is one of the things I really worry about being with adults is that they’ll “outgrow” me. But I know I would date someone as they age, but the idea it isn’t mutual is honestly something that scares me.

Hi starlit what is your age limit?

Some where like 4-50

If I've formed a good relationship, then it won't matter if they grow up (and it might even lead to even more). I have one in particular that I deeply love (and have attractions for). If the circumstances were to ever be right (legal age, gay, and us both single) I would tip toe into trying gay things with them (although I have no desire to try gay things with adults I meet).

I'm in my 40s and have good relationships with several past lgf's. We're connected on socials and sometimes meet up for nights out when they're visiting the area. They're good friends.

And when I was as young a 6 I had a physical relationship with a man. In my 20s I saw him again and smiled to him but I don't think he recognised me.
Then quite recently by chance at a party I met his sister who connected me to him and we met for beers and we talked about old times as well as life in general. I told him I was thankful for our times together and he helped me a lot at the time and I think it gave him some relief and joy to hear. He's an older man and I just wanted him to be happy and feel no guilt for those days since they were genuinely special for me.