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We must come out (Harvey Milk speech)

Posted: Thu Jul 04, 2024 9:20 am
by Fragment
The following speech was given by Harvey Milk on June 25, 1978 (Gay Freedom Day). Sodomy was legalized in California in May 1975. The APA declassified homosexuality as a mental illness in December 1973. This speech happened after substantial progress had already been made. MAPs are still more like the Mattachine Society (founded in 1950), having to meet while masked without revealing our identities. Yet there is truth to be had in this speech. I'll post my favorite parts in bold, followed by the whole speech:

Gay people, we will not win our rights by staying quietly in our closets…we are coming out! We are coming out to fight the lies, the myths, the distortions! We are coming out to tell the truth about gays!

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Gay brothers and sisters, what are you going to do about it? You must come out. Come out to your parents. I know that it is hard and that it will hurt them, but think of how they will hurt you in the voting booth! Come out to your relatives. I know that it is hard and will upset them but think of how they will upset you in the voting booth. Come out to your friends. If indeed, they are your friends. Come out to your neighbors, to your co-workers, to the people who work where you eat and shop. Come out only to the people you know, and who know you. Not to anyone else. But once and for all, break down the myths, destroy the lies and distortions.

For your sake.

My name is Harvey Milk—and I want to recruit you. I want to recruit you for the fight to preserve your democracy from the John Briggs and the Anita Bryants who are trying to constitutionalize bigotry.

We are not going to allow that to happen. We are not going to sit back in silence as 300,000 of our gay sisters and brothers did in Nazi Germany. We are not going to allow our rights to be taken away and then march with bowed heads to the gas chambers. On this anniversary of Stonewall, I ask my gay sisters and brothers to make the commitment to fight. For themselves. For their freedom. For their country.

Here, in San Francisco, we recently held an election for a judgeship. An anti-gay smear campaign was waged against a presiding judge because she was supported by lesbians and gay men. Here, in so-called liberal San Francisco, an anti-gay smear campaign was waged by so-called liberals.

And here, in so-called liberal San Francisco, we have a columnist for the San Francisco Examiner, a columnist named Kevin Starr, who has printed a number of columns containing distortions and lies about gays. He’s getting away with it.

These anti-gay smear campaigns, these anti-gay columns, are laying the groundwork for the Briggs Initiative. We had better be prepared for it.

In the Examiner, Kevin Starr defames and libels gays. In the Chronicle, Charles McCabe warns us to be quiet, that talking about gay rights is counter-productive. To Mr. McCabe, I say that the day he stops talking about freedom is the day he no longer has it.

The blacks [sic] did not win their rights by sitting quietly in the back of the bus. They got off!!

Gay people, we will not win our rights by staying quietly in our closets…we are coming out! We are coming out to fight the lies, the myths, the distortions! We are coming out to tell the truth about gays!

For I’m tired of the conspiracy of silence. I’m tired of listening to the Anita Bryants twist the language and the meaning of the Bible to fit their own distorted outlook. But I’m even more tired of the silence from the religious leaders of this nation who know that she is playing fast and loose with the true meaning of the Bible. I’m tired of their silence more than of her biblical gymnastics!

And I’m tired of John Briggs talking about false role models. He’s lying in his teeth and he knows it. But I’m even more tired of the silence from educators and psychologists who know that Briggs is lying and yet say nothing. I’m tired of their silence more than Briggs’ lies!

I’m tired of the silence so I’m going to talk about it. And I want you to talk about it.

Gay people, we are painted as child molestors. I want to talk about that. I want to talk about the myth of child molestations by gays. I want to talk about the fact that in this state some 95 percent of child molestations are heterosexual and usually committed by a parent.

I want to talk about the fact that all child abandonments are heterosexual.

I want to talk about the fact that all abuse of children is by their heterosexual parents.

I want to talk about the fact that some 98 percent of the six million rapes committed annually are heterosexual.

I want to talk about the fact that one out of every three women who will be murdered in this state this year will be murdered by their husbands.

I want to talk about the fact that some 30 percent of all heterosexual marriages contain domestic violence.

And finally, I want to tell the John Briggs and the Anita Bryants that they talk about the myths of gays, but today I’m talking about the facts of heterosexual violence and what the hell are you going to do about that?

Clean up your own house before you start telling lies about gays. Don’t distort the Bible to hide your own sins. Don’t change facts to lies. Don’t look for cheap political advantage in playing upon people’s fears! Judging by the latest polls, even the youth can tell you’re lying!

Anita Bryant, John Briggs: Your unwillingness to talk about your own house, your deliberate lies and distortions, your unwillingness to face the truth, chills my blood. It reeks of madness!

And like the rest of you, I’m tired of our so-called friends who tell us that we must set standards.

What standards?

The standards of the rapists? The wife beaters? The child abusers? The people who ordered the bomb to be built? The people who ordered it to be dropped? The people who pulled the trigger? The people who gave us Vietnam? The people who built the gas chambers? The people who built the concentration camps—right here, in California, and then herded all the Japanese-Americans into them during World War II. The Jew baiters? The [n-word] knockers? The corporate thiefs [sic]? The Nixons? The Hitlers?

What standards do you want us to set? Clean up your act, clean up your violence before you criticize lesbians and gay men because of their sexuality. It is madness to glorify killing and violence on one hand and to be ashamed of the sexual act, the act that conceived you on the other.

There is a difference between morality and murder. The fact that more people have been slaughtered in the name of religion than for any other single reason. That, that, my friends, is the true perversion! For the standards that we set, should we look to next week’s headlines?

Well, I’m tired of the lies of the Anita Bryants and the John Briggs.

I’m tired of their myths.

I’m tired of their distortions.

I’m speaking out about it.

Gay brothers and sisters, what are you going to do about it? You must come out. Come out to your parents. I know that it is hard and that it will hurt them, but think of how they will hurt you in the voting booth! Come out to your relatives. I know that it is hard and will upset them but think of how they will upset you in the voting booth. Come out to your friends. If indeed, they are your friends. Come out to your neighbors, to your co-workers, to the people who work where you eat and shop. Come out only to the people you know, and who know you. Not to anyone else. But once and for all, break down the myths, destroy the lies and distortions.

For your sake.

For their sake.

For the sake of the youngsters who are being terrified by the votes coming from Dade County to Eugene.

If Briggs wins, he will not stop. They never do. Like all mad people, they are forced to go on, to prove they were right.

There will be no safe “closet” for any gay person.

So break out of yours today—tear the damn thing down once and for all!

And finally

Most of all

I’m tired of the silence from the White House.

Jimmy Carter: you talk about human rights a lot. In fact, you want to be the world’s leader for human rights. Well, damn it, lead!!! There are some fifteen to twenty million lesbians and gay men in this nation listening and listening very carefully.

Jimmy Carter, when are you going to talk about their rights?

You talk a lot about the Bible, but when are you going to talk about that most important part: “Love thy neighbor”? After all, she may be gay.

Jimmy Carter: The time has come for lesbians and gay men to come out—and they are. Now the time has come for you to speak out. When are you?

Until you speak out against hatred, bigotry, madness, you are just Jimmy Carter. When you speak out, then and only then, will some twenty million lesbians and gay men be able to say Jimmy Carter is our president, too!

Jimmy Carter, you have the choice: How many more years?

How much more damage?

How much more violence?

How many more lives?

History says that, like all groups seeking their rights, sooner or later we will win.

The question is: when?

Jimmy Carter, you have to make the choice—it’s in your hands: either years of violence…or you can help turn the pages of history that much faster.

It is up to you. And now, before it becomes too late, come to California and speak out against Briggs.

If you don’t then we will come to you!

If you do not speak out, if you remain silence, if you do not lift up your voice against Briggs, then I call upon lesbians and gay men from all over the nation, your nation, to gather in Washington one year from now on that national day of freedom, the fourth of July…the fourth of July, 1979…to gather in Washington on that very same spot where over a decade ago Dr. Martin Luther King spoke to a nation of his dreams…dreams that are fast fading, dreams that to many millions in this country have become nightmares rather than dreams.

I call upon all minorities and especially the millions of lesbians and gay men to wake up from their dreams…to gather in Washington and tell Jimmy Carter and their nation: “Wake up…wake up, America…no more racism, no more sexism, no more ageism, no more hatred…no more!”

It’s up to you, Jimmy Carter…Do you want to go down in history as a person who would not listen…or do you want to go down in history as a leader, as a President?

Jimmy Carter: listen to us today…or you will have to listen to all of us from all over the nation as we gather in Washington next year.

For we will gather there and we will tell you about America and what it really stands for.

And to the bigots, to the John Briggs, to the Anita Bryants, to the Kevin Starrs and all their ilk…Let me remind you what America is…listen carefully.

On the Statue of Liberty, it says, “Give me your tired, your poor, your huddled masses yearning to be free…” In the Declaration of Independence it is written, “All men are created equal and they are endowed with certain inalienable rights…” And in our National Anthem it says: “Oh, say does that star-spangled banner yet wave o’er the land of the free.”

For Mr. Briggs and Mrs. Green and Mr. Starr and all the bigots out there: that’s what America is. No matter how hard you try, you cannot erase those words from the Declaration of Independence. No matter how hare you try, you cannot chip those words from off the base of the Statue of Liberty. And no matter how hard you try, you cannot sing the “Star Spangled Banner” without those words.

That’s what America is.

Love it or leave it.

Re: We must come out (Harvey Milk speech)

Posted: Thu Jul 04, 2024 9:39 am
by Fragment
The Anita Bryant referred to is indeed the Anita Bryant of Save Our Children that promoted the idea of gay men as recruiting children to molest them.

Details history of her antivism here:
https://www.nbcnews.com/nbc-out/out-new ... -rcna24215

This was the turning point where gay acceptance was starting to move forward, but under pressure from antis who accused them of being child molesters. Notice how Milk still talks about ageism, and it's likely he still was in favor of radical youth rights like many in the sexual revolution. Unfortunately, he was assassinated and gay rights pushed forward while throwing MAPs under the bus.

This is what we might expect from our own forward trajectory, though. Up to and including open MAP politician being assassinated in the early days of our progress. Right now we are fighting for visibility, but once that fight is won we can expect it to get fiercer.

Re: We must come out (Harvey Milk speech)

Posted: Fri Jul 19, 2024 4:10 pm
by Peter Caldwell
I came out to my mom a couple of years ago. She was initially like, "you can't have what you want. Not only is it illegal, but it's immoral, too." Now she's firmly in my corner. She's glad I told her because she would have never changed his opinion otherwise. We had a conversation a few weeks ago about the gay rights movement, and she thinks the biggest factor in changing public perception was people coming out to their parents.



It seems like chat GPT agrees, as well.


The impact of gay individuals coming out to their parents on the success of the gay rights movement has been studied and documented in various empirical research, revealing significant insights into how this personal act contributes to broader social and political change.

### Empirical Evidence on the Impact of Coming Out

1. **Public Opinion and Personal Contact**:
- Research has consistently shown that personal contact with LGBTQ+ individuals is one of the most powerful influences on attitudes toward gay rights. A study by Gregory M. Herek found that heterosexuals who know someone who is gay or lesbian are more likely to support gay rights, including same-sex marriage and anti-discrimination laws. This phenomenon is known as the "contact hypothesis," which posits that direct interactions with members of a marginalized group can reduce prejudice and increase acceptance【9†source】.

2. **Survey Data and Social Attitudes**:
- Data from surveys, such as those conducted by the Pew Research Center, have shown a correlation between knowing someone who is gay and supporting gay rights. For example, a 2013 Pew Research survey found that among those who personally know someone who is gay or lesbian, 68% support same-sex marriage, compared to just 32% among those who do not. This data underscores the role of personal relationships in shaping social attitudes towards the LGBTQ+ community【9†source】.

3. **Political and Legislative Outcomes**:
- The presence of openly gay individuals in public life has also had a tangible impact on legislative outcomes. Studies have shown that lawmakers who have personal connections with LGBTQ+ individuals are more likely to vote in favor of gay rights legislation. For instance, a study published in the American Journal of Political Science found that legislators who have a family member or close friend who is gay are significantly more likely to support LGBTQ+ rights【8†source】.

4. **Social Movement Success**:
- The sociological analysis of social movements suggests that visibility and personal narratives are critical for the success of rights-based movements. The LGBTQ+ movement, in particular, has benefited from the "coming out" strategy, which has been used to increase visibility and build a broad base of support. According to research by Verta Taylor and Leila J. Rupp, the personal stories of LGBTQ+ individuals have played a key role in shifting public perceptions and gaining allies for the movement【9†source】.

### Examples and Case Studies

- **PFLAG (Parents, Families, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays)**:
- PFLAG has been instrumental in advocating for LGBTQ+ rights. The organization's success is largely due to the personal stories of its members, many of whom are parents of gay and lesbian children. These parents often become powerful advocates for change, using their personal experiences to influence public opinion and policymakers【8†source】.

- **Impact on Legal Battles**:
- Personal testimonies of LGBTQ+ individuals and their families have been crucial in court cases related to gay rights. For example, in the Obergefell v. Hodges case, which led to the legalization of same-sex marriage in the United States, the personal stories of plaintiffs were central to the arguments made before the Supreme Court. These narratives helped to humanize the issue and demonstrate the real-life impact of discriminatory laws on individuals and families【8†source】【9†source】.

In summary, the act of coming out has had a profound empirical impact on the success of the gay rights movement by fostering personal connections, shifting public opinion, influencing legislative behavior, and providing powerful narratives for advocacy and legal battles. These factors combined have significantly contributed to the advancement of LGBTQ+ rights.

Re: We must come out (Harvey Milk speech)

Posted: Sat Jul 20, 2024 6:40 am
by Fragment
Peter Caldwell wrote: Fri Jul 19, 2024 4:10 pm I came out to my mom a couple of years ago. She was initially like, "you can't have what you want. Not only is it illegal, but it's immoral, too." Now she's firmly in my corner. She's glad I told her because she would have never changed his opinion otherwise. We had a conversation a few weeks ago about the gay rights movement, and she thinks the biggest factor in changing public perception was people coming out to their parents.
My mother is supportive of legal reform, too. She also says things like "you should write a book about your experiences".

I think it's various dangerous for people to come out to their parents. But when it works, it's one of the most powerful tools that we have. You can lose friends and family by coming out to them. But if they treat you like that, were they really worth calling friends or family? People aren't ever going to become MORE anti by having someone close to them come out. They'll either remain unchanged or become more empathetic. I've heard of people's own parents outing them to their workplace, etc, so it's not something I'll actively promote. Everyone has to make their own decisions. But being out is powerful. Each personal connection we keep, in spite of our sexuality, is one that works for us.