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I’m a 24yo gender-fluid male in America on the east coast and I’ve struggled with being the way I am for so long.. I need want to hurt anyone and I don’t want to be a monster. It’s hard to find a place accepting of people like me and I hope this is one of those rare safe havens! I love video games and nature and I try very hard to be a good person despite the worry I will never truly be one.

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MAPness is beautiful, and you are not a monster!

Zzz wrote: Tue Mar 10, 2026 6:13 am I’m a 24yo gender-fluid male in America on the east coast and I’ve struggled with being the way I am for so long.. I need want to hurt anyone and I don’t want to be a monster. It’s hard to find a place accepting of people like me and I hope this is one of those rare safe havens! I love video games and nature and I try very hard to be a good person despite the worry I will never truly be one.

The harsh truth is no one is a good person. We're all terrible people (not bc of being pedophiles, but in general), and the only thing we can and must do is accept it and strife to become the best version of ourselves.

Anyways welcome!

ReArm! wrote: Wed Mar 11, 2026 6:38 am

Zzz wrote: Tue Mar 10, 2026 6:13 am I’m a 24yo gender-fluid male in America on the east coast and I’ve struggled with being the way I am for so long.. I need want to hurt anyone and I don’t want to be a monster. It’s hard to find a place accepting of people like me and I hope this is one of those rare safe havens! I love video games and nature and I try very hard to be a good person despite the worry I will never truly be one.

The harsh truth is no one is a good person. We're all terrible people (not bc of being pedophiles, but in general), and the only thing we can and must do is accept it and strife to become the best version of ourselves.

Anyways welcome!

No one is a good person. Indeed, I have a tough love approach when it comes to CSA victims.

I disagree with much of discourse here. There are some people ENJOY being cruel whereas others don't but could be driven to doing bad things, to me the latter doesn't make them "bad people". Huge difference when someone is naturally cruel and likes it from someone who doesn't but is forced to.

Anyway enough with the negatives. Welcome, fellow MAP! I hope you enjoy your stay!

DANAT4T wrote: Wed Mar 11, 2026 12:50 pm

ReArm! wrote: Wed Mar 11, 2026 6:38 am

Zzz wrote: Tue Mar 10, 2026 6:13 am I’m a 24yo gender-fluid male in America on the east coast and I’ve struggled with being the way I am for so long.. I need want to hurt anyone and I don’t want to be a monster. It’s hard to find a place accepting of people like me and I hope this is one of those rare safe havens! I love video games and nature and I try very hard to be a good person despite the worry I will never truly be one.

The harsh truth is no one is a good person. We're all terrible people (not bc of being pedophiles, but in general), and the only thing we can and must do is accept it and strife to become the best version of ourselves.

Anyways welcome!

No one is a good person. Indeed, I have a tough love approach when it comes to CSA victims.

The binary of good and evil is a trap. It’s product of Christianity (and Abrahamic religions in general). Why is policing & limiting people’s bodily autonomy considered good meanwhile feeding the homeless for free punishable by law?

I empathize with CSA survivor’s ( myself being one) to the extent that modern society has failed children completely when it comes to sex education. When children learn their bodies and that of others, incidents of assault will decrease and eventually disappear bc there will be nobody to “take advantage of”. And they will grow up to be sexually competent adults ending this cycle of violence for good. Meaning there won’t be a power imbalance to exploit because all parties involved understand what’s going on and mutual pleasure will be prioritized for all.

In pre-colonial societies like pre-contact Hawaii, sexual assault was virtually non existent and it’s because people were taught about sex as early as toddlers with sexual exploration (both same sex and opposite) occurring as early as 4-6 years old.

I don’t however have much empathy for people who use their trauma to who scapegoat pedophiles or victim blame instead of getting to the root of their trauma which is living in a sex negative society where sex Ed isn’t prioritized.

bnkywuv wrote: Fri Mar 13, 2026 11:00 pm I disagree with much of discourse here. There are some people ENJOY being cruel whereas others don't but could be driven to doing bad things, to me the latter doesn't make them "bad people". Huge difference when someone is naturally cruel and likes it from someone who doesn't but is forced to.

Anyway enough with the negatives. Welcome, fellow MAP! I hope you enjoy your stay!

What do you mean by "cruel".
Was General MacArthur "cruel" for wanting to destroy the Chinese communists.
My desire is to destroy anyone who goes to war with me.

The binary of good and evil is a trap. It’s product of Christianity (and Abrahamic religions in general).

Please look at Robert Sapolsky's research on "us" vs "them" thinking being hardwired into humans due to evolutionary pressures. Christianity and Islam are both reflections of those pressures natural selection favored, and culture sets the religious themes.

https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=us vs them sapolsky

In pre-colonial societies like pre-contact Hawaii, sexual assault was virtually non existent and it’s because people were taught about sex as early as toddlers with sexual exploration (both same sex and opposite) occurring as early as 4-6 years old.

In precolonial Hawaii not drying off after swimming and meeting a royal person was a death penalty offense. They still had tons of rules and customs it was not the individual freedom 18+ adults have today.