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I have had dreams in the past that fits the description of the title. Extremely humiliating but am I wrong for having some excitement from this.

There is no right or wrong for what you find arousing. This isn't even all that rare of a fantasy.
I think a better question is what do you find so exciting about it? Is it specifically the humiliation aspect of it? Or perhaps you subconsciously think your dad is pretty hot?

Like RoosterDance says, I don't think it's wrong to be aroused by it. Neither is it wrong to be bothered by it. Not to go Dr. Freud on you, but you could consider it repetition compulsion. Next time you have it, experiment a little. Instead of avoiding the feeling and waving it away, go all the way to one end or the other. Treat it like the most disgusting thing you ever saw and "act it out", make gross noises, wave your hands around like it's a horrible smell, scrub yourself like it's on your skin... see how you feel when you really lean into it. Alternatively, lean into the arousal. Totally indulge in it, moan, act out your dad's part (back off if you feel like you're retraumatizing yourself), don't "secretly" masturbate to it because that keeps you in shame and ambivalence. Really let loose and see if you can process it. Or, if it's not a big deal to you, ignore the dreams.

Edit: I read in your other post that you're wondering if you have OCD. What I described above kinda fits into ERP so it could help but I would only recommend you try it under the guidance of a professional. Meds are indicated for OCD too, so you might look into that.

Orry wrote: Sat Apr 11, 2026 1:52 am Like RoosterDance says, I don't think it's wrong to be aroused by it. Neither is it wrong to be bothered by it. Not to go Dr. Freud on you, but you could consider it repetition compulsion. Next time you have it, experiment a little. Instead of avoiding the feeling and waving it away, go all the way to one end or the other. Treat it like the most disgusting thing you ever saw and "act it out", make gross noises, wave your hands around like it's a horrible smell, scrub yourself like it's on your skin... see how you feel when you really lean into it. Alternatively, lean into the arousal. Totally indulge in it, moan, act out your dad's part (back off if you feel like you're retraumatizing yourself), don't "secretly" masturbate to it because that keeps you in shame and ambivalence. Really let loose and see if you can process it. Or, if it's not a big deal to you, ignore the dreams.

Edit: I read in your other post that you're wondering if you have OCD. What I described above kinda fits into ERP so it could help but I would only recommend you try it under the guidance of a professional. Meds are indicated for OCD too, so you might look into that.

My father knows how to treat a young lady. I wonder if she will become pregnant.

its my fault. i put shit in his drink. im gonna roofie your dad a million times

It isn't wrong, if you look at adult alternative lifestyles there's all kinds of things most people would consider weird.

People desperate to be cuckolds, swingers, people into bdsm and pain and humiliation, people into toilet sex, people into just about everything. These days it feels like people into plain marital sex are the weird minority.

So it isn't wrong to feel that way.

oujololi<3 wrote: Fri Apr 24, 2026 9:57 pm its my fault. i put shit in his drink. im gonna roofie your dad a million times

I've got a better idea. Do something similar to "CSA VICTIMS" instead. They could start seeing flashbacks of their abuse.

I had a fantasy where the young son has sex with the mother next to the sleeping father.
Another version of this is at the father's funeral / memorial, where the sight of her in her widow's black arouses the boy.

I am thoroughly disgusted by the idea of a woman having sex with my father (or male cousin) but to each their own. I'm generally turned on by women being promiscuous and 'slutty' though. There's nothing wrong with your fantasy/interest in that.

Another version of this is at the father's funeral / memorial, where the sight of her in her widow's black arouses the boy

You know what? I am going to mind my business today.

Like RoosterDance says, I don't think it's wrong to be aroused by it. Neither is it wrong to be bothered by it. Not to go Dr. Freud on you, but you could consider it repetition compulsion. Next time you have it, experiment a little. Instead of avoiding the feeling and waving it away, go all the way to one end or the other. Treat it like the most disgusting thing you ever saw and "act it out", make gross noises, wave your hands around like it's a horrible smell, scrub yourself like it's on your skin... see how you feel when you really lean into it. Alternatively, lean into the arousal. Totally indulge in it, moan, act out your dad's part (back off if you feel like you're retraumatizing yourself), don't "secretly" masturbate to it because that keeps you in shame and ambivalence. Really let loose and see if you can process it. Or, if it's not a big deal to you, ignore the dreams.

I am firmly against sexual suppression, even with the things that I do have a moral problem with I wouldn't necessarily tell people to not explore them through fantasy; maybe they have to experiment to see what kind of people they want to be or making it forbidden fruit would just make it worse, etc. (I would like to believe that developing greater compassion and valuing everyone's happiness would cause people to lose interest in certain things) but I can see this becoming a compulsively ritualistic way of dealing with genuinely intrusive and aversive thoughts (as opposed to having a genuine attraction to some disagreeable woman, for example, and suppressing that attraction out of 'pride' or loyalty or a sense that being attracted to her is wrong etc.) and it becomes a chore that someone has to perform to process the shock of something or play out the possibility in their mind or test what they can withstand, etc. Something is always going to disgust or bother you (or at least most people, I would imagine) and forcing yourself to engage in it isn't necessarily going to desensitize you. I've done that in the past and it was hell. Even pleasurable things can be a chore for me to process.