Dating single moms, someones experience relayed to me
Posted: Tue Apr 14, 2026 12:24 pm
So what is your take on this?
I knew a guy who was in his late 40s who was widowed and a map and he decided to try internet dating.
He placed a local dating advert where he said he was an old fashioned widowed male, no family, but he had always wanted a family and was looking for a single mom with family who didn't mind his old fashioned and unusual views on family life.
I advised against it because I thought he'd get a load of crazies but he had a few responses, all who sounded friendly and asked about his old fashioned and unusual views on family life. He responded about how he feels as the man he should be the head of the family, love and protect his family, be a provider. Lead the family respectfully but his dad had been the head of his family and he was raised that way and it just fell naturally for him. He also believes families should be open together as in the parents shouldn't hide their feelings or intimacy. His parents didn't, he grew up in a sex positive environment that encouraged questions, he never felt repressed and grew up with a very open and positive view of sex and relationships. His parents did hide their sexual nature away, they didn't lock their door, it wasn't something the family made so taboo they couldn't discuss it.
Some women responded with "that's interesting but doesn't match her views, she is looking for a more modern and conservative type of home".
Some women responded with some interest but ultimately decided it wasn't quite right for them, they didn't want any kind of long term relationship, just dating or social dating and such.
But some women responded very positively and said they could really respect such a family dynamic, it sounds refreshing and positive. He went on to have dates with several and eventually settled down with one.
I have to admit I was really surprised how positive the responses were, I had assumed he'd have been instantly attacked for even suggesting anything remotely sex positive. He didn't get any really negative responses, the worse were simply "no thanks" responses while others loved the idea of an old fashioned family life that allowed for positive questioning about sex or even leaving the door open when they as a couple would be making love. That was totally unexpected to me.
But then I thought about it and something a single mom once said to me about how hard it is as a single mom and how hard it is to find a good mind who actually wants a woman with family in his life. Most men just don't want that, some say they're fine with it but they're really only interested in the mom and sex, they're only tolerating the family. Finding a man who genuinely wants family is very very hard to find, most women give up once they realise that and so there are a lot of single moms who just don't see the effort as worth it. Men don't exist that really want family or think about family.
Remembering that and that he was genuinely interested in family I suppose it shouldn't have been so surprising. He was a man who felt it would be impossible to find a woman with family who'd be open to him and his obvious map world view, and they were women with family who felt it would be impossible to find a man open to her family. An old fashioned gent with a clear view of family and a positive, if unusual, outlook on family was a good find.
I knew a guy who was in his late 40s who was widowed and a map and he decided to try internet dating.
He placed a local dating advert where he said he was an old fashioned widowed male, no family, but he had always wanted a family and was looking for a single mom with family who didn't mind his old fashioned and unusual views on family life.
I advised against it because I thought he'd get a load of crazies but he had a few responses, all who sounded friendly and asked about his old fashioned and unusual views on family life. He responded about how he feels as the man he should be the head of the family, love and protect his family, be a provider. Lead the family respectfully but his dad had been the head of his family and he was raised that way and it just fell naturally for him. He also believes families should be open together as in the parents shouldn't hide their feelings or intimacy. His parents didn't, he grew up in a sex positive environment that encouraged questions, he never felt repressed and grew up with a very open and positive view of sex and relationships. His parents did hide their sexual nature away, they didn't lock their door, it wasn't something the family made so taboo they couldn't discuss it.
Some women responded with "that's interesting but doesn't match her views, she is looking for a more modern and conservative type of home".
Some women responded with some interest but ultimately decided it wasn't quite right for them, they didn't want any kind of long term relationship, just dating or social dating and such.
But some women responded very positively and said they could really respect such a family dynamic, it sounds refreshing and positive. He went on to have dates with several and eventually settled down with one.
I have to admit I was really surprised how positive the responses were, I had assumed he'd have been instantly attacked for even suggesting anything remotely sex positive. He didn't get any really negative responses, the worse were simply "no thanks" responses while others loved the idea of an old fashioned family life that allowed for positive questioning about sex or even leaving the door open when they as a couple would be making love. That was totally unexpected to me.
But then I thought about it and something a single mom once said to me about how hard it is as a single mom and how hard it is to find a good mind who actually wants a woman with family in his life. Most men just don't want that, some say they're fine with it but they're really only interested in the mom and sex, they're only tolerating the family. Finding a man who genuinely wants family is very very hard to find, most women give up once they realise that and so there are a lot of single moms who just don't see the effort as worth it. Men don't exist that really want family or think about family.
Remembering that and that he was genuinely interested in family I suppose it shouldn't have been so surprising. He was a man who felt it would be impossible to find a woman with family who'd be open to him and his obvious map world view, and they were women with family who felt it would be impossible to find a man open to her family. An old fashioned gent with a clear view of family and a positive, if unusual, outlook on family was a good find.