My introduction
Posted: Wed Sep 02, 2026 5:10 pm
I'm a man in my 40s, a pedophile and I've known that since my early 20s. I could see the signs much earlier, way back into my earn teens, but it wasn't something I understood as a thing until my 20s when it was obvious on the dating scene that my interests lay elsewhere.
I'm happily married, so not an exclusive map, and I've had 20 years of advocacy and activism with mixed results. Some things worked very well, others had no effect. I'm a very organized person when it comes to activism, I like to run often ambitious projects but I put the money and time and focus in since if something is worth trying, then it's worth trying properly. For me, activism isn't about sticker campaigns, random leaflet drops or arguing with ignorant anti's online. Anti's are a tiny minority of people nobody listens to or respects anyway, I've found that normal everyday people dislike anti's more than they dislike pedophiles since pedophiles are not a problem in their daily lives, anti's are loud mouthed bigots cluttering peoples social media feeds and saying awful things nobody want to hear. For me, activism is engaging with the world, whether it's the government, the law, the media, society or institutions. It's using the frameworks and systems that exist in our favor.
The state is neutral, the law is neutral, they exist for their purposes. Each has frameworks and mechanisms to govern and influence them, as do all institutions. Effective activism is using those mechanisms to influence and change things. It look me a long time to realize that. My early activism years were doing the anti thing of shouting loudly into the crowd which yielded no more results than it yields results to anti's. Real change comes from far more targeted and mature activism, and so that's where I focus my spare time.
Places like this are incredibly important and the team behind it are providing something invaluable. I look forward to contributing to the good work that happens here.
I'm happily married, so not an exclusive map, and I've had 20 years of advocacy and activism with mixed results. Some things worked very well, others had no effect. I'm a very organized person when it comes to activism, I like to run often ambitious projects but I put the money and time and focus in since if something is worth trying, then it's worth trying properly. For me, activism isn't about sticker campaigns, random leaflet drops or arguing with ignorant anti's online. Anti's are a tiny minority of people nobody listens to or respects anyway, I've found that normal everyday people dislike anti's more than they dislike pedophiles since pedophiles are not a problem in their daily lives, anti's are loud mouthed bigots cluttering peoples social media feeds and saying awful things nobody want to hear. For me, activism is engaging with the world, whether it's the government, the law, the media, society or institutions. It's using the frameworks and systems that exist in our favor.
The state is neutral, the law is neutral, they exist for their purposes. Each has frameworks and mechanisms to govern and influence them, as do all institutions. Effective activism is using those mechanisms to influence and change things. It look me a long time to realize that. My early activism years were doing the anti thing of shouting loudly into the crowd which yielded no more results than it yields results to anti's. Real change comes from far more targeted and mature activism, and so that's where I focus my spare time.
Places like this are incredibly important and the team behind it are providing something invaluable. I look forward to contributing to the good work that happens here.