Can sexual experiences be positive?

[Pegasus]

Sometimes it feels like we're running around in circles, because certain subjects always come up again. Can childhood sexual experiences be positive? Well, I can speak for myself, when it happened to me I don't know exactly how old I was, maybe 5, just a few flashes of what happened come to mind, but nothing traumatic, far from it, I just remember being curious and participative. Today I'm a man, middle-aged, GL, a mix of nepi and 6-9. Strongly sexual, with my libido always high. I've never hurt a girl, I just live out my fantasies on my own. The question remains: if what happened hadn't happened, would I be like this? Or if it had happened in a forced way, would I have psychological problems? Hating the world and everyone? We're always left wondering ?????

[BLueRibbon]

It's hard to know what makes a person an MAP. Everyone has their own theory, and most people can point to something traumatic in their childhood that could have caused it. I often wonder about things in my past, but really it's just speculation.

To answer the question in the title, the answer is yes, but that doesn't mean they're always positive. That, too, doesn't mean they should be illegal by default. Every case is different.

https://wiki.yesmap.net/wiki/Research:_Youth_sexuality
https://wiki.yesmap.net/wiki/Research:_ ... e_Outcomes

[Fragment]

BLR said it well enough that I almost didn't reply, but I just wanted to echo my agreement.

First, experiences can be positive and no-one should be gaslit into believing they were abused if they don't feel they were. Everyone has a right to their own interpretation of their experiences- good OR bad. Even when they are bad experiences I'm not sure that prisons are always the best solution for non-violent offenders.

As for how those experiences shape us, well that's an eternal debate. I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder- is that a result of childhood experiences or is it just how my brain works? Does my sexuality have anything to do with being raised in a single-parent family? I don't know. And at the end of the day, I don't care. I am me and can't change it, whatever led me to this point.

[Joanne7315]

I was, technically in the eyes of the law, 'abused' as a 15 yo when I was groomed and used by a man - I know and understand that now. But I never felt like I was being abused, I never felt pressured or forced. I am not sure whether that has shaped who or what I am now. I have long since made a life decision not to regret anything I have done in the past, it has all gone to shape who I am today. I have my faults but I like to think I am fundamentally a good person. I have never broken the law although I might have skirted around the edges occasionally. So to answer the question, yes, sexual experiences were mostly positive. Part of growing up means some weren't but that's just the way it it. I am speaking generally rather than in a pure MAP context, but my 'other end' of the MAP context was OK, well apart from my ass being a bit sore, LOL.

[ZeroXJoker]

They can be positive but that doesn't mean all are. I was really young when I had my first sexual experience like 9 or 10 years old. I never really thought it all that much as I would admit that I had my first sexual experience at 19 (my first het experience but I don't want to talk about that). It wasn't all that long ago that I finally could admit to myself that what I did at 9 or 10 was my first sexual experience but over the last few years I have thought about it more and I'm a little more neutral on how it effected me personally. For positives it did help me be more comfortable with talking about sex despite my inexperience with it and like I mentioned in my intro post it didn't gross me out or think its weird when someone really young has sexual urges or talks about it. It did help shape my views on sex and made me more much positive towards sex.

For the negatives well that was one that I didn't want to admit to but I ended up doing a lot of sexualization of my classmates and members of the opposite sex when I was a preteen/teenage basically only viewing my peers as nothing more than sex objects which led to me being unpopular with my classmates as they all knew that I really didn't want to date anyone I just want to have sex with them. I was always a horn dog as a teen and I think some of that had to do with my first sexual experience at such a young age.

I don't consider myself a victim of what happened to me.

[mylittlegirl]

Well, why not? What if a child can choose how to play? What if a girl can choose to play with hula loop or educate about what adults do in a real manner? Is like "are you curious? want to play? want to learn?". Can simply be sexual education through actual play. Theoretically speaking. Can also feel nothing and could mean nothing sexual, but will have an idea what is. So later on when might become a pedophile woman, she can also enjoy this heavenly love. Is like mutual fulfillment.

[Lennon72]

Yeah, it can happen. And it has happened. It all depends on a variety of factors ( environment, circumstances, etc.).

[Outis]

I can say as a fact that it can be positive since I had some sexual experiences when around 6 that lasted a few years and they were entirely positive. I had confidence issues and suffered from some early bullying as I moved schools and having this gentleman in my life gave me a rock and really helped me in life. It didn't start off sexual but it turned that way but it was more than just sex. Yes I enjoyed the sexual side, it was run and enjoyable and a distraction from the bad things in life but we would talk and build dens and do loads of stuff that was fun.

[gedjarvis]

All sexually experiences can be positive if they are carried out in the right way

[stropa]

Does anyone have a source for positive experiences that is neutral and unbiased? I don't trust pedophile sources to be reliable - meaning neither the websites that compile positive accounts nor the testimony posted by self-proclaimed pedophiles. There's a conflict of interest there.

Surely there must be youtube videos, posts and comments on random (non-pedophile related) forums talking about positive experiences. I haven't been able to find much if any.

I would like to see a source that comes from non-pedophiles, preferably a heterosexual who had an experience with an older adult of the same sex during childhood/adolescence, or a homosexual that had an experience with an adult of the opposite sex. The reason I ask for that is because if the adult was the gender they were attracted to, the person might probably be looking back at the experience through the lens of their own sexuality (just like the pedophile). In other words their attraction might make them remember it as more positive than it actually was. I just want to keep things as objective and unbiased as possible.

Thanks