youth in kink and BDSM

[magicaldoll]

Ive heard much discourse about teens and children in kink especially with the rise of teen girls desiring ddlg/mdlg relationships. I personally think that the best sex education in school should teach kids about consent and kink, so they can safely explore it at any age. Theres an extra stigma around this because antis hate any sort of kink cause grrr evil people exploring their sexuality.. Even on most popular DDLG forums if you even mention you were interested in kink before 18, you're booted off the face of earth. I personally think that if its normal for kids to have vanilla interest in sex and even have vanilla sex, i think they should be allowed to build kinky relationships since almost everyone has kinks. i'd love to hear other's opinions and experiences.

[Not Forever]

In my opinion, sexual education at school on specific topics is somewhat detrimental. Sexuality is extremely lively; there are many topics and many preferences, and focusing on particular interests at school is a bit like asserting that those are the “normal” interests (excluding the others). Even if they are increasing, it doesn’t mean they are the majority. (Even if, honestly, that makes me happy, since as a teenager I also had those preferences—although I didn’t like classic BDSM and therefore probably wouldn’t have appreciated those lessons.)

I believe it’s more useful to have an online educational platform, where anyone (including those who are past school age or those who are reaching it early) can find information based on their own sexual preferences—helping them understand, accept, and explore them with as little risk as possible. Possibly talking about diseases, harm, etc.—not to scare people, of course, but to become familiar with risk.

School-based education could then be limited to a more general overview, perhaps more focused on presenting human sexuality as varied and plastic, without any moral judgment about preferences in themselves.

I also remember that when I was looking into these topics, there were people who wanted to ban Pornhub because they believed it was the cause of certain fetishes in young people’s sex lives, treating them as if they were intrinsically negative—attributing to them behaviors that were also present in vanilla relationships (such as a lack of interest in the partner’s sexual satisfaction, which seems to be quite common during very first experiences), and things like that.

[magicaldoll]

i totally agree with letting people get a choice in what they learn in detail, and I'd like to elaborate on "teaching kids kink" as more teaching them that sexual fantasies outside of the norm are okay and how to understand consent. This especially applies in relationships with a power imbalance or roleplay of harm/danger

[Not Forever]

In this sense I completely agree; it would be nice to have a small encyclopedia with a list of all fetishes in simple alphabetical order. From hair fetishes, to object fetishes, all the way to domination, submission, those related to breathing, clothing, roles, and so on… all treated in the same way. Even if it might feel sterile, it would still give so much information as to make it essentially clear that there can be virtually anything. Including in the list—just as if they were simply some of many—heterosexuality, homosexuality, and bisexuality as well. Not a list to be read, but merely to understand its infinite facets.

[Jim Burton]

https://wiki.yesmap.net/wiki/Kinky_Kids

https://paraflags-wiki.org/index.php/Li ... araphilias

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_paraphilias

[DANAT4T]

In this sense I completely agree; it would be nice to have a small encyclopedia with a list of all fetishes in simple alphabetical order. From hair fetishes, to object fetishes, all the way to domination, submission, those related to breathing, clothing, roles, and so on… all treated in the same way. Even if it might feel sterile, it would still give so much information as to make it essentially clear that there can be virtually anything. Including in the list—just as if they were simply some of many—heterosexuality, homosexuality, and bisexuality as well. Not a list to be read, but merely to understand its infinite facets.

Now now, no more foreplay.

[JGHeaven]

Parents would freak out if there were kink classes

It would be educational to teach more real issues in sex education, such as LGBTQ+ and beyond and to not judge others choices.
Sex isn't just reproduction, that's about 1% of real world sex. Most sex is for fun and pleasure, sex ed shouldn't shy away from that.

I'm not sure they should get the whips and ball gags out, but they should be honest that sex is enjoyed in many forms.

[Scorchingwilde]

I agree with the other sentiments here in favor of it, and I'd like to add that it would be especially beneficial for people with masochistic and sadistic kinks to have education treating them as normal people and not monsters, as well as to prevent any actual danger from risky sex activity, whether or not it happens before or after they become adults. Breathplay in particular really needs to be taught about so that people are aware of the risks and also the way that doing things wrong can seriously maim or kill someone.

[Not Forever]

[...] such as LGBTQ+ and beyond [...]

I would preferably talk to them about homosexuality, but without using terms like “LGBTQ+” or “Queer”, which unfortunately are political terms that not even everyone they’re supposed to represent feels represented by. (There are right-wing homosexuals, there are bisexuals who prefer the term Queer and don’t like the acronym due to internal discrimination and things like that.) I would present everything using as few ideological labels as possible.

In the same way I would talk about pedophilia or other chronophilias, but without using the term MAPs. Creating compartments in rhetoric, in my opinion, has its use: using language differently depending on the situation, without the need to plant your flag everywhere. MAPs (LGBTQ+, Queer and etc.) is a more activist term, whereas in schools, in my opinion, a more scientific approach is needed.

[trannypuppy]

I learned a lot about kink as a kid. It was one of my special interests from around 13 on
I will say kink definitely can expose you more to paraphilias, I was a AAM who was very into daddies (like the kink term, just to clarify) and became aware of the map and aam community from it