Why am I more emotional in my attraction?

[senseless]

As the title says, I (and many other pedophiles) experience strong, emotional, exciting, upsetting feelings when it comes to my attraction for young children.

You do not really see any normal teleiophilic heterosexual people experience this, even the ones who are quite lonely, is there a reason why (some) pedophilic love feels different than teleiophilic love?

As a person who is usually impassive, I sometimes tear up at the lack of little girl love in my life, I did not have parents growing up, and this just compounds things and makes it more poignant, I feel a desire to give nurture to a child, a type of love and care that would fill a void left by my own upbringing, and to just be that connected with a child, it's really beautiful.

I haven't really looked into it much, but the way alot of other pedophiles talk about children, it is very different than how (for example), a heterosexual teen boy would talk about other teenage girls.

[BLueRibbon]

This is normal for MAPs. Our sexual orientation is beautiful.

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[RoosterDance]

The desire for emotional connection is normal for everyone, not just MAPs. If you're not hearing as much from the teliophiles around you, it's probably because they are less outspoken about it. And that can happen for a variety of reasons.

[senseless]

The desire for emotional connection is normal for everyone, not just MAPs. If you're not hearing as much from the teliophiles around you, it's probably because they are less outspoken about it. And that can happen for a variety of reasons.

I am very aware that a desire for emotional connection is common, what I ment is how differently it is described by MAPs and teleiophiles, I (and many others) do wish for even platonic relationships with children, which isnt as common for teleiophilic people.

[John_Doe]

The desire for emotional connection is normal for everyone, not just MAPs. If you're not hearing as much from the teliophiles around you, it's probably because they are less outspoken about it. And that can happen for a variety of reasons.

I agree.

I (and many others) do wish for even platonic relationships with children, which isnt as common for teleiophilic people.

Even if pedophiles were more likely to want platonic relationships with children, it wouldn't be what defines them as pedophiles ('politically' it might be best to emphasize the idea of pedophiles loving children rather than being sexually attracted to them but this speaks to the idea of sex being negative by default unless it's justified, which seems to be why gays seemed to gain acceptance when they emphasized their orientation being about 'love'- because a preoccupation with sexual happiness in a vacuum is seen as degenerate). Most people seem to be fond of children, at least some of the anti-pedophilia hysteria is rooted in misguided protective instincts, adults are generally expected to like and care for children. Most people want to have children whom they would deeply love, even die for.

Most people also seem to want meaningful, long-term 'romantic' attachments (to eventually getting married too). Even men, who are stereotyped as being able to easily separate sex from 'feelings' (even if they make a distinction between women who are for sex only and women you have romantic feelings for, which I more or less can't relate to. I won't get into why I say 'more or less' but affection always comes with sexual attraction for me, sex without affection or emotional intimacy would be boring for me, even though I wouldn't be interested in committed and/or exclusive relationships even in unrealistic, ideal real world scenarios. Long-term exclusive romance can work for daydreaming; where I'd be controlling a fantasy life that can last for much longer than the relatively short period of time that I want to focus on one specific girl etc. or something I can appreciate in fiction but I don't think that would be for me even, again, in a much more desirable world. What I would want in any 'real life' ; as in outside of my head, scenario would be emotionally intimate casual sex with friends. Not 'polyamory' as it seems to be understood but relationships that look 'romanticish' without the exclusivity. When I am infatuated with someone I do want to focus on that person alone but infatuation is very fragile/transient for me and a 'romantic' relationship isn't something I would want to have when I'm not already in a good mood or emotionally secure).

Children are generally much safer and more likable/easier to trust than adults. Maybe I would find prepubescent girls more intimidating if I were strongly attracted to them but they still seem to be generally less threatening. That's something to consider (teleiophiles being more likely to be attracted to people they wish they were not attracted to). It's one of the reasons why I find the idea of older men liking women in their 20s or even teens because they crave power and control more or less difficult to understand because it seems to me that even teenage girls are dangerous; they can harshly reject you, they can be overly critical, they can reject your values/beliefs, they don't necessarily care about your suffering or your happiness, etc. Children under a certain age, maybe not preteens, seem almost incapable of malice and cruelty.

[CantChainTheSpirit]

It's the same reason why a heterosexual male will feel protective of females and worry for females. A person cares for the group they are aligned to through their sexuality. Sexuality isn't just sex, that's a tiny part of what sexuality means. There are straight and gay people who have no sex drive, but they know their sexuality still. Sex is a tiny part of sexuality and isn't even necessary for it for many people. That's why you care and feel emotional connection, it's because you're a map and a normal good person.

[FairBlueLove]

Can this be somehow related to the fact that we are not allowed to express our affection freely?