How does it make you feel when people mad assumptions about you based on your age?

[Grunko]

I wanted to know what are people thought when other people make assumptions about you based on your age- for example, your life experience, knowledge or they judge you based on your age. Has anyone ever had anything negative happen.

[John_Doe]

-Age-related assumptions per se don't really bother me emotionally (or at least nothing immediately comes to mind), it's the restrictions that people put on other people because of their age (their age ultimately or their age per se) that bothers me. I can appreciate 'at your age, you should know better' because even though everyone should be held to the same standard (once you account for rational agency and physical ability), wisdom should ideally come with experience. Maybe I'd eventually give a different take if I thought about this but it's not as though you should be doing something unreasonable or pointlessly harmful to others to begin with so as much I don't like double standards it's not as though I want the 'right' to be a 40-year-old gang banger or to be abusive or disrespectful to people. What bothers me are the normative age roles that parallel gender roles when it comes to harmless behaviors or expressions that are natural or a source of happiness for some older people. Let older adults read YA and children's fiction, let them play with toys, let them read comic books or play video games, let them blow bubbles or play tag, let them go clubbing with younger people, let them use Gen Z dialect or self-express in ways that we typically associate with teenagers, etc.

-I really, really cannot fucking stand the anti-age gap relationship prejudice. I am trying to state this as diplomatically as possible without being 'inauthentic' but it turns me off so much. It would be hard to have a close relationship (if I was otherwise inclined toward one) or be on friendly terms with someone who thinks that older people dating, marrying or having casual sex with younger people is 'exploitation,' 'creepy' or 'abusive' etc. beyond just civility. It bothers me more when it's between legal adults because even though the denial of human biology and adolescent sexuality really frustrates me it defeats the whole concept of making 18 the age of adulthood if you're not going to treat them as full-fledged adults. I don't like the half-assedness of it, where an 18-year-old will be tried as an adult for murdering a senior citizen but even with their cognitive and physical decline the senior citizen would be considered the predator for dating that same 18-year-old. A 20-something-year-old police officer can bust a middle-aged man in his head or take him to jail for what other officers might let him off the hook for (or even just disrespect, possibly) but, again, if he tried to date that officer it would be THe PoWUr DYNaMiCs.

Likewise, that there's nothing intrinsically wrong with child-adult sex or, by extension, an adult sexual attraction to prepubescent children; that it should be celebrated to the extent that it could be a source of happiness for both children and adults, is a hill that I'm prepared to die on but I can at least understand where the idea that risk aversion would justify discouraging AMSC even in a world without an idea of sexual exploitation or statutory rape for people to internalize and suffer from as a result because if your body hasn't started producing sperm or having menstrual cycles you are not yet physically wired for sexual intimacy (or at least not vaginal intercourse). When it comes to adolescents whose bodies produce sperm or have menstrual cycles, who presumably have fully-developed libidos (I think it's a myth that prepubescent children are completely asexual but I can understand why that would be the assumption; even though possibly most people would admit that they had some sexual feelings as children, at the very least many people will. Even that being the case, I suspect that prepubescent child sexuality is a precursor to a fully-developed libido considering low levels of testosterone and estrogen which increase significantly at puberty, declining levels of testosterone and estrogen explain why, for age-related reasons, older adults have less of a libido than younger people, after all), I don't understand the idea that their brains are wired in such a way that make them not ready for sex; for fundamentally age-related reasons (if nature uses sexual desire to manipulate us into reproducing, wouldn't natural selection favor people who did not find sexual intimacy with desirable partners inherently traumatizing), or incapable of understanding what sexuality is, I won't get into the power dynamics fallacies or the idea that the age of their partners makes a difference or the sex exceptionalism behind not applying this same concern to basic platonic relationships.

-The idea that I shouldn't be attracted to the age-group I prefer (girls/women in their teens, twenties and thirties; although actual age is irrelevant if a middle-aged woman looks as though she's still in her thirties) is one of my 'emotional triggers' or insecurities, and I would consider that to be normative age role; in some way comparable to the idea that men as men shouldn't cry or shouldn't be affectionate or nurturing, women shouldn't lead, promiscuous women but not promiscuous men are low value, etc. I am never going to prefer middle-aged or elderly women; never mind to be attracted to them exclusively, I'd choose to be as attracted to them as I am to younger women if I could (once you account for individual personality, anyway).

[RoosterDance]

Around when I first entered adulthood, and thus had to socialize more, I would often refuse to tell people my age. I always knew deep down that age-based assumptions were nonsense, and didn't want those flung at me.

[TheHamilplexOfficial]

smt that i always hear ppl say abt ppl my age is that "oh you dont care abt politics!"
literally yes i do. politics is the reason my rights as a person is being taken away for no reason other than other peoples hatred
it pmo when ppl make assumptions. like yes other ppl my age might not but i do, and i know others who do too

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