How did you guys learn to accept yourself?

[harrydubois666]

Sorry for venting, but I just feel so lonely. All I think about all day is that I'm a pedo. I even joined the pediverse in the hope of meeting new people, but nothing comes out of it. Having to wear a mask 24/7 is exhausting, why did I have to be born like this? I still live with my parents and I feel like there's a barrier between me and them.

[bnkywuv]

I live with an anti if that helps you feel better!

I was able to tell my dad who then alter admitted he was an ehebephile. But I'd never, ever tell my other parent! She'd practically burn me alive at the stake, turn me into steak and eat me!

I basically accepted this is something I've tried over and over to change and never could.

[fanta]

Since the beginning, I never saw it as something negative, so my perspective may differ a lot here. I don't know when your own minor attraction first dawned on you, but I understand that it is hard to process if you have gone through your life with all the hatred of it internalized. If you still struggle with guilt, it may help to identify what about it makes you do so, and ask yourself if it really makes sense or not. Chances are, it doesn't, so long as your desire is not to bring harm to anyone.

While I myself would prefer to not have to hide these sorts of things from others, I really do not mind it much. I'm sure you have other secrets that you keep from others, and that keeping those things secret doesn't bother you, so why should this be any different? Oftentimes it is best to not to dwell too much on your own identity, much so if it starts to consume your thoughts as a whole.

[harrydubois666]

That's nice, how did he react? Honestly you're so brave for coming out

[CantChainTheSpirit]

Self acceptance takes time but it does happen.
Remember, you are a good, normal person and you don't know what is ahead. When in a dark place it can feel overpowering but then a few years later, fate intervenes and you find yourself in a good place that you couldn't have foreseen. The key is to keep pushing forward, understand that you are not what anti's say, you are 10 times better than those anti's. Eventually you can learn to see what you have as a gift, it just takes time.

[Condemned]

Coming to places like here and others

Spoiler!

not VirPed

Being able to connect with others that have fully embraced being a pedophile without any shame helped me make great advances in accepting myself. I just wish I had connected with places like this much earlier in life.

[Curson]

I pay attention to what people say and do not say anything in return.

[harrydubois666]

Self acceptance takes time but it does happen.
Remember, you are a good, normal person and you don't know what is ahead. When in a dark place it can feel overpowering but then a few years later, fate intervenes and you find yourself in a good place that you couldn't have foreseen. The key is to keep pushing forward, understand that you are not what anti's say, you are 10 times better than those anti's. Eventually you can learn to see what you have as a gift, it just takes time.

Thanks man, I needed to hear this. I know I'm a good person, everyone around me says so, and I guess we all have dark secrets. Getting in the pediverse seems to be at least somewhat helpful, people are very active and reply to my posts, it feels nice to be in a place where I don't have to mask, but it's not the same as real life. Seems like everyone here who learned to move on also were in a dark place before.

[harrydubois666]

Coming to places like here and others

Spoiler!

not VirPed

Being able to connect with others that have fully embraced being a pedophile without any shame helped me make great advances in accepting myself. I just wish I had connected with places like this much earlier in life.

I know what virped is, they seem to deeply hate themselves and I don't think it's a healthy environment

[Nopi Balki]

I had to learn that people can be bad with whoever they dislike be that a MAP or someone that likes a job they don't, and that does not mean that we or anyone they dislike are wrong in the way we are or in what we do.