The “power dynamic” argument and why it is disingenuous bullshit

[bnkywuv]

This actually sounds a lot like toxic personality traits, like in my NPD ex-mother.

These people actually enjoy these power dynamics and how unfair they are. They enjoy forcing their kids to do things they DON'T want to do. But they ALSO enjoy belittling kids and treating them as slaves. According to studies toxic people lack a sufficient supply of oxytocin receptors, and thus bonding is actually pretty impossible for them. As suck they see bonding and kindness as disgusting, something worthy of being exploited. Kind, caring people who have the child's best interest and work to liberate them to have autonomy and independence are a direct threat to their ego, public image, control, domination, and yes, power dynamic.

In fact kindness triggers a sense of extreme disgust in these people due to the lack of pathways for bonding. To them bonding is control and manipulation (unless it's coming form them because well, they can't have their victims finding that out, plus the lack of self reflection and arrogance/entitlement thing...). So of course ANYONE who tries to show their kids adults can be trusted, that adults can be kind, that adults can make them feel better about themselves and help them develop a safe sense of freedom as well as put them on the same level as adults are "disgusting". They cannot tolerate people who boost their slaves up to adult standards as they lose their control and power struggles over them and have much less coercive control.

So the way to maintain that control? Call everyone who is nice to them and gives them agency as a dangerous person so they will be afraid of THEM and not their abuser.

It's the same as a slave owner or an abusive partner telling their victims to not go to anyone else, especially if they're nice to you and you feel good. Then they'd run away and not trust them anymore, and abusers want their victims to trust them without question.

Plus they also enjoy repressing their feelings. Don't cry. Don't scream. Don't fight back? Why? This breaks them into compliance and makes them easier to manipulate. If they cannot vent the stress they'll do anything to avoid it. But that has serious health consequences, from excessive cortisol, eating disorders, strokes, and heart ailments, unaliving themselves being a few. Same thing with drugs. Some drugs can actually reverse trauma and help them see things in a different light, so "no drugs!!"

Plus drugs are an ADULT thing, so naturally, they don't just sit them down and have responsible talk. no no. They become irrational to scare them into obedience. Yes, my ex-mother is exactly the same. She hates my use of ANYTHING that can calm me down, even legal things like terpenes and CBD products. Not because she's worried they're dangerous, but because they weaken her power. She also cannot stand my father! He treats me like an equal. Can't have that either! She's always badmouthing him during family meetings.

We also must remember that these things, especially sex is the cultural epitome of adulthood and independence, undoing shame, building self confidence, et. and toxic, controlling types CAN'T have that! So anyone who dares do this or even so much as suggest it is automatically a "groomer".

All reasons to get these people AWAY from kids. We need to expose these people for the monsters they really are and hopefully undo the damage they've done to people who actually care about children.