Being a victim vs being victimized

[PorcelainLark]

I think the real issue is indirect harm, analogous to revenge porn. Say you have a video of your girlfriend fellating you and you share it anonymously to people who probably don't know her, that's one thing. However, there is a chance that a person could identify who your girlfriend is and send the image to their relatives or friends. What was a private act becomes public in the community you live in; which is humiliating and deeply uncomfortable. By sharing an image, you are putting a person at risk for harassment by their community and/or family. However, theoretically you could get around this by not sharing the face of the person involved in the sex act. Generally, though, people don't want to let the whole world judge their body, so most people aren't comfortable being seen naked (even nudists often have rules against photography and treating nudism as a participation sport).

Also in the case of victims of CSA, a comparison might be sharing images of the bodies a person's relatives that died in a school shooting. A deeply traumatic event. Unless we're willing to challenge the claim that people are as traumatized by participating in sexual acts as minors as they say they are, I think it would be another obstacle.

[GetSiggyWithIt]

You're 100% right; the victimhood is most often a narrative made by the stupid for the stupid and from my experience it's best to free yourself of this and view through a different lens outside the victim triangle (unless you're top 5% of psychiatrists/psychologists/IQ)

I've found it's often been best to keep rightness like this to yourself, because my experience of humans is that if you don't stupid people get all irate and make more suffering and social retardation. So someone did that.

What's the effect on me for typing this?