Coming Out Stories

[Batmanthecute]

I think I ruined my life. I was in a seven-year relationship with an amazing person. She was probably the person made in the world for me. We saw the world in the same way. We were practically the same person, and she is so beautiful to me. I was the luckiest person to ever exist because of her. But I was doxxed a couple years ago, and it started to affect her life too. I was terrified that I would end up ruining her life, so I moved. Awhile after moving I told my mom i am a Map. She always suspected it but was in denial and blocked out of her brain the twelve times I told her but I think it finally hit her. Even though I moved I was still talking to her my baby girl. We started talking about moving back to where she lived, but maybe in another town. But my mom told me that I should tell her the truth. Just come out so I said to her that I am a pedophile. And she was horrified at first, and then we kept talking, and she told me that she thought it was a phase. And then she dug through my search history and came across a video that I was watching that involved a couple little girls that were probably in middle school, and she was disgusted. And last time we talked, she said, I'm sorry, but I can't be with someone like you. And then she told me that if I ever called her again, she would block my number or change her number and have her job block my number. And so I called her at her job one more time. She declined my call and went through with what she said. To this day, I think that I just might have ruined my life. She is my everything, and always will be. It hurts so fucking bad. I checked out her Facebook earlier and she's now in a relationship with someone. I've been struggling with my relationship with religion for a while now but last night I told God that if he could put us back together I will give my life to him. I'm writing a prayer that I will post on my wall to pray every night that is for our reunion. I don't want porn or a crazy sex life. I just need my Paige in my life. My mom asked her if she could prep for us But yeah. My mom asked her if she could pray for us and she told her that I need to move on that I was just holding her back Anyone else come out to your loved ones ?

[BLueRibbon]

I'm sorry to hear about your experience. As I understand (from copy editing your Guest Blog article), you've come out to a lot of people, right?. It's odd that your mother, of all people, should be so intolerant.

[Batmanthecute]

Thank you for what said. My mom doesn’t know how to feel about it. I will read your article about Apathy soon. You mentioned that there’s something similar to map camp this summer. Is there any way you could privately message me to talk about whether I can come. I’ll provide my email if needed.

[BLueRibbon]

Thank you for what said. My mom doesn’t know how to feel about it. I will read your article about Apathy soon. You mentioned that there’s something similar to map camp this summer. Is there any way you could privately message me to talk about whether I can come. I’ll provide my email if needed.

I believe the inaugural Mu Camp will be limited to very well-established community members. In the second year, we can consider opening up to more people, and you will also have been in the community longer.

If you still want to chat privately, you can send me a PM.

[Brain O'Conner]

Hey man, firstly, it's good to see you. I'm really sorry for what has happened to you. Despite me not ever having been in a relationship before, I can feel the hurt you felt when you saw your love of your life being with someone else. It feels like someone is drowning you while you watch someone take something that is really special to you. Anyways, how have you been? I sent all kinds of messages to you. Are you feeling any better from the hospital?

[nathan222]

hi i wanted to tell about me coming out ...... cause i been like very open about it .....i understand your problem and the person probably was like that not only cause she was disgusted by the concept a assume she was disgusted being not aware and in the state of something so influential being hidden from her for so long .......i have a gf to she know I'm a pedophile form the start ...... and i know it sound ridiculous ..... she was 15 when i meet her we are together for around 5 years ..... she has adhd so it can alter her response i think bot not to the important value

i have lots of friends that actually know that to count them its like 15 people ............yeah I'm myself surprised I'm not in jail at this point iksd adding that i know those people for quite long time ...... my rule to check if someone is ok with it its to just come out with it as fast as possible but before check the vibe a little .....of course it will not work in the USA because people there have such sex hysteria that its just plain Nazi Germany almost
I'm always avoiding workplace to know that ....once i slipped ...nothing happen they make jokes about it luckily

the rules how to maintain the social status coming out in environment that is considered moderately not tolerant or skeptically not tolerant is to present like ultra honest about it and talk about it like its nothing(and the best way is to do it as fast in a relation as it is possible it will then not leave the felling that you are sketchy and deceptive and so you are keeping it a secret for that reasons) and normal with a smile on your face but not being in an attitude of smart ass it will ruin it
you can't show that you fell shame or that you fell guilt or that you fell like a bad person ....cause the will think "if he thinks its bad than it probably is" but not like consciously more like unconsciously felling like that


OF CURSE i had bad experiences to more like to the lower side i had people trying to plug me CP on my pc (yeah and they call themselves the morally-correct ones)
i have been excluded from social groups in with some of my other tolerant friend are i was treated at high school bu some one time personas in a wrong way they were negatively adjusted and in a group of relatives tried to shame me unsuccessfully .... maintaining the being in charge and unmoved attitude helps a lot ....... and knowing cognitive biases like a boss and pointing out eristic tricks of opponent by knowing their definitions is magic .....

[Borutohyuga]

Sorry to hear about that.

But I think it’s best to be honest with yourself in the long run. You wouldn’t want to live a lie, and who knows, maybe there’s other love opportunities for you somewhere down the line. With someone who can accept you for all that you are, not what they want you to be.