AAMs, how serious are the younger generations about hating MAPs?

[PorcelainLark]

I can kind of understand being angry, if a person has experienced abuse. However, it feels like the hatred of MAPs is more out of a fear of standing out than personal animosity towards MAPs.

Do you think this will change as people get older?

[Bookshelf]

It's difficult to say. People who have good experiences in their youth with MAPs tend to get bullied into silence as they get older. You can see it all the time; if someone comes out claiming to have a good experience with sex with an older person when they were a minor, or perhaps they still are a minor that has come out with their good experiences, they'll often be told how to feel about it - that anything positive they feel now will inevitably fade with time. If they don't feel poorly about the experience, they'll be harassed, made fun of, treated like they're ill etc.

Overall, I think younger generations do hate MAPs, because that's the culture they're raised in. Sexual contact with a minor is the worst thing in our society, emphasized at every level in every institution from mass media to education. We're something younger people are going to hate unless they experience some sort of cultural shock (usually through a positive experience) that knocks them out of it.

I personally don't think it's possible that we'll see a massive change in attitude towards MAPs from young people until we start to see a growth in youth liberation movements, because I think legitimate liberation of youth will inherently liberate them sexually as well.

[PorcelainLark]

It's difficult to say. People who have good experiences in their youth with MAPs tend to get bullied into silence as they get older. You can see it all the time; if someone comes out claiming to have a good experience with sex with an older person when they were a minor, or perhaps they still are a minor that has come out with their good experiences, they'll often be told how to feel about it - that anything positive they feel now will inevitably fade with time. If they don't feel poorly about the experience, they'll be harassed, made fun of, treated like they're ill etc.

Overall, I think younger generations do hate MAPs, because that's the culture they're raised in. Sexual contact with a minor is the worst thing in our society, emphasized at every level in every institution from mass media to education. We're something younger people are going to hate unless they experience some sort of cultural shock (usually through a positive experience) that knocks them out of it.

I personally don't think it's possible that we'll see a massive change in attitude towards MAPs from young people until we start to see a growth in youth liberation movements, because I think legitimate liberation of youth will inherently liberate them sexually as well.

Are you an AAM? I was hoping to get the perspective of people who are part of the younger generation. If so, have you been bullied as a result of it?

[Bookshelf]

Are you an AAM? I was hoping to get the perspective of people who are part of the younger generation. If so, have you been bullied as a result of it?

Oh no, I was just giving my opinion on it based on my own experiences and communications with younger people.

I wouldn't recommend wasting time on it, but if you're really curious to see the typical responses to MAP-positive experiences from youth, you could always make an account on social media and just make a simple 'I had this experience, it wasn't bad' comment, then watch how people respond. It'll likely involve some bullying, with most of it being people telling you how you should feel about it etc. You could experience in part what an AAM might actually go through while recounting their experiences.

I do agree that the perspective of an AAM would be good though.

[Xuxa Nuit]

If you're a MAP and you care about AAMs
You have a responsibility to spare kids from bad experiences, duty to provide good experiences.
It is going to take commitment and self-sacrifice, and I cannot promise any rewards in the end.
Heart of gold, not just icing. You can do it! lots do, the good ones. The bad ones wind up in trouble, ultimately you'll figure it out eventually.
I am expressly here for this very exact reason.

[roadkillgf]

Its hard to say for sure. I feel like a lot of girls around my age will fake hatred towards MAPs and date them in secret. Ive had to be like that for a while.
When i told my friends i liked and dated older guys they were really worried about me. Thought I'd get killed or something but the worst experiences I've had are just guys who get too pushy.
My friend is close with an older guy, mid 20s, who tried to kiss her once. most of my friends freaked out about it, but me and her accepted it as a mistake he made. They're cool with each other now.
I think generally there's more hatred for pedophiles than hebephiles. Teenagers can make their own decisions and think for themselves, i guess, is the logic. But theres a lot of extreme opinions in my generation cus of echo chambers that are created by social media algorithms.

[thecrimsonarchives]

That's a great question. In my experience it's a combination of two things, naturally occuring sexual attraction and upbringing. I was raised in a strict Christian household but the girls at my church, camps, and school were often promiscuous and very sexual, and somehow I often attracted, and gained the trust of these sorts of individuals which led to my sexual experience with both adults and other children my age at that time. For the most part we kept these things hidden but once word came out among those of us that were very sexual whether minor or for adults, you were trusted/put into this inner network or group of sorts that sort of did naughty things behind the scenes or had romantic relationships with one another.

While many of us grew up in that sort of setting, nothing could stop our urges and as a result of society, we became very good a keeping everything "Eyes Wide Shut". VERY GOOD. I remember visiting my biological father a few times in West Virginia and when we would visit his friends with their kids, while the parents were doing parent stuff, the kids, all of us would be off somewhere hidden "having a good time". It wasn't until I found that there were others on that side of my family that were into incest that I realized that these friends my biological father had, were swingers and nudist, and raised their daughters and sons in similar settings, hence why as a kid, when I was around them, the parents knew what we were doing and were ok with it.

tl;Dr: MAP will eventually be fully embraced as it is natural but as of now it really depends on your upbringing and what comes natural to the individual. Society forces many of us that are secretly MAPs to put on an act that we hate this stuff so as to not be ostracized by society.

[thecrimsonarchives]

It's difficult to say. People who have good experiences in their youth with MAPs tend to get bullied into silence as they get older. You can see it all the time; if someone comes out claiming to have a good experience with sex with an older person when they were a minor, or perhaps they still are a minor that has come out with their good experiences, they'll often be told how to feel about it - that anything positive they feel now will inevitably fade with time. If they don't feel poorly about the experience, they'll be harassed, made fun of, treated like they're ill etc.

Overall, I think younger generations do hate MAPs, because that's the culture they're raised in. Sexual contact with a minor is the worst thing in our society, emphasized at every level in every institution from mass media to education. We're something younger people are going to hate unless they experience some sort of cultural shock (usually through a positive experience) that knocks them out of it.

I personally don't think it's possible that we'll see a massive change in attitude towards MAPs from young people until we start to see a growth in youth liberation movements, because I think legitimate liberation of youth will inherently liberate them sexually as well.

Very well stated and I agree! Unfortunately it's just the way our society is. The environment you grow up in really changes your perspective on things but it's even more controlled when society as a whole establishes institutions dedicated to bastardizing any revolving around children or adults.

[xxseaofsilverxx]

I can kind of understand being angry, if a person has experienced abuse. However, it feels like the hatred of MAPs is more out of a fear of standing out than personal animosity towards MAPs.

Do you think this will change as people get older?

im 16 and an AAM, it's just the fact that it's drilled into our heads that adult-minor relationships are inherently creepy. I've told my close friends about maps I've talked to online sometimes, and usually they just brush it off as omg ew he was 40??? I've been on spaces on the internet I shouldn't have been for a long time now, so I never thought it was creepy I've always enjoyed talking to people much older than me, but for a lot of kids they're just afraid they're parents tell them all maps are out to get them and hurt them. they're also never referred to as "maps" I didn't learn that term until recently. the term pedophile has a very very negative connotation as I'm sure most know, it's not something anyone is taught is okay, unless they're being abused by their guardian, but different story. most people are taught that maps abuse and hurt kids and nobody takes the time to learn differently because they don't understand the attraction so in their head it remains creepy.

[slashersun]

Speaking as a male, i think it depends on gender. Guys definitely dont care about an older female liking a younger guy, I think literally every guy would probably like that even though society doesn't allow it. However girls tend to be a lot more sensitive about this, especially if related to an older guy. Maybe it's because of social media. Its hard to see that changing to be honest, because of how angry people get about this.
But I agree with the post above, the older the person is (say an older teenager for example) the less people will probably care if asked for their honest opinion. But if they're younger, however, it's seen as a big deal and I don't see that changing.