How old is too old ?

[calemnie]

Sorry about that! I was just wondering because I'm treated like an adult more and more lol... Thanks for awnsering!

[InfinityChild]

I like 12-13 yos of all genders the most, but also like 14 and 15 yos a lot and 16-21 yos have lots of cuties too

[ZeroXJoker]

Not all of us have the same AoA. For me my AoA is all in the early preteen to teen years. I'm about 10-13 for Boys and 10/11-17 for girls.

[TheOtherKindofPride]

G@yWad43, I'm pretty sure children under the age of consent are legally called "minors". Correct me if I'm wrong.

[Valerian]

Calemnie said;
“All my life and since I was small I've been attracted to adults, and *old* adults,…”

It also happened to me when I was a child. I am not certain the age perhaps around 7 to 8. I was sexually attracted to specially motherly looking women. I still believe it would have a wonderful life experience if it had happened. However, while reading those adults stories of their being sexually molested by the adults when they were children, makes me to wander, did they really hated it at that time as they do it today. Am I different from them .

[TheOtherKindofPride]

Calemnie said;
“All my life and since I was small I've been attracted to adults, and *old* adults,…”

It also happened to me when I was a child. I am not certain the age perhaps around 7 to 8. I was sexually attracted to specially motherly looking women. I still believe it would have a wonderful life experience if it had happened. However, while reading those adults stories of their being sexually molested by the adults when they were children, makes me to wander, did they really hated it at that time as they do it today. Am I different from them .

Never underestimate the human mind's ability to lie to itself. It's likely that they are associating different aspects of their life at the time, and maybe the style in which they were molested, like how nervous the adult was, or how aggressively they had to convince the child to keep it a secret, or how paranoid the adult ended up being after the event happened, or the fallout from other adults going into panic/rage mode after finding out. All of which could have led to a generally negative association with that person/event/time period where, had the experience been casual and open with no worries about anything bad happening as a result, they may have come away from that experience with nothing but good things to say, or at least not much different than any other sexual relationship at any other time in their life.

I like to liken this to how the way an adult reacts to a child falling off their bike has a massive impact with how the child perceives the event of falling off their bike. If the adult is cool, calm and collected and doesn't give the child reason to worry too much, handles the (minor) injury maturely and sends the kid on their way again, then that child is very unlikely to freak out and cry on the ground for an hour the next time they fall off their bike. Instead they'll either just get up and keep going, or go back home to get it cleaned up and bandaged.
But if an adult freaks out and treats it like the end of the world, the child will too, and that initial negative experience may taint their entire perception of riding a bike, even into their adulthood.
There are countless examples of this; mirror neurons, "a bit of honey makes the medicine go down easier", distracting kids while they get their shots, etc. It's largely perception and conditioning, not objectively harmful "evils". But of course, anything good can be done in a way that makes it bad, but that's no excuse for hating something completely without caveats. Else you'd have to hate basically everything, and that would make you crazy.

[Harlan]

My AoA for boys 7-21 but the older the boy, the younger he should look.Usually these are slim, thin guys. Sometimes I find girls aged 9-12 attractive, but this happens rarely.

[FairBlueLove]

Age is just a number. I personally could be attracted more to a 19 year old who is looking and behaving like a 12-year-old, more than to a 15-year-old looking bodily and behaviorally like an adult.

[TheOtherKindofPride]

Age is just a number. I personally could be attracted more to a 19 year old who is looking and behaving like a 12-year-old, more than to a 15-year-old looking bodily and behaviorally like an adult.

That makes a lot of sense. Initial attraction is mostly surface-level, so the appearance of a person is going to matter more than their "technical details" like age, ethnicity, beliefs, etc. Things that are not immediately visible about them. Age doesn't matter much for most things, outside of extreme cases like preteen age or elderly age, beyond physical capability, like height and strength. It's mostly just for medical purposes, like knowing what kind of medical issues they might have or what kinds of medicine or procedures are best for them. Plenty of 18 year olds are not mentally ready for sex, and plenty of people under that age clearly are. It's possible to hurt a certain 18 year old during sex in ways that wouldn't hurt a certain 16 year old, or even a 14 year old, depending on the circumstances. You also couldn't expect an 80 year old to handle very rough sex the way a 20 year old could, yet its not illegal.
It's all very case-by-case, and should be treated as such. This blanket banning of adult-child relationships is akin to banning relationships between men and women, or able-bodied and disabled people, because of a supposed power imbalance among those groups. Well, maybe some people would call that reasonable, but I don't.

[LittleGirlLover9]

16 is too old imo, I perfer 3 to 6 they are the most perfect. I think their innocence is maxxed out at those ages, im pretty sure most MAPS have an innocence fantasy?!