Question for AAMs: Why Are Adults Attractive to You?

[blackcat10]

Someone else put this in a wonderful way, the whole authority complex. I also feel as if I relate more to and connect with people older than me rather than people my age. As for appearance, I don't find kids my age very attractive, in very rare cases I will. As for sexuality, I like the way more mature bodies look, I also really, really like chubby and hairy men for some odd reason, that of which isn't very common in my peers. I feel like even If I wasn't a boy who's chubby and hairy as well, that opinion would still very much stand. I yearn for an adult man to smother me with love. With all honesty, this probably sprouts from some underlying father complex, but the answer still stands. ;]

[WavesInEternity]

Someone else put this in a wonderful way, the whole authority complex. I also feel as if I relate more to and connect with people older than me rather than people my age. As for appearance, I don't find kids my age very attractive, in very rare cases I will. As for sexuality, I like the way more mature bodies look, I also really, really like chubby and hairy men for some odd reason, that of which isn't very common in my peers. I feel like even If I wasn't a boy who's chubby and hairy as well, that opinion would still very much stand. I yearn for an adult man to smother me with love. With all honesty, this probably sprouts from some underlying father complex, but the answer still stands. ;]

Chubby and hairy boy who seeks chubby and hairy men? That sounds a lot like a 'bear' cub. Do you identify with that subculture at all?

I find it interesting to see how much agreement there seems to be among the self-described AAMs who wrote in this thread. I was expecting more diversity. What surprises me most is that the most common stereotypes which age play between adults relies on are similar to what you describe as your main reasons for preferring adults. You all sound like you're very likely to enjoy age play and various forms of BDSM in adulthood.

Otherwise, we're pretty far apart in the MAA/AAM world since I'm a non-hairy man of average build who's exclusively into petite, slender and smooth-skinned girls.

[jeffychubchaser29]

Someone else put this in a wonderful way, the whole authority complex. I also feel as if I relate more to and connect with people older than me rather than people my age. As for appearance, I don't find kids my age very attractive, in very rare cases I will. As for sexuality, I like the way more mature bodies look, I also really, really like chubby and hairy men for some odd reason, that of which isn't very common in my peers. I feel like even If I wasn't a boy who's chubby and hairy as well, that opinion would still very much stand. I yearn for an adult man to smother me with love. With all honesty, this probably sprouts from some underlying father complex, but the answer still stands. ;]

You're very well spoken for a 15yo, which is very rare these days. Has anyone ever said that you seem like an old soul?
Also I love chubby/hairy boys and men. I'm almost 30, 265lbs, 5'7" and hairy.

[babyflowers]

Honestly a lot of it for me personally has to do with maturity and experience. A lot of guys my age are just not it and don’t really know how to treat a girl if that makes sense lol. and i think someone else said it but looks for me as well. guys my age usually have scruffy looking faces and very baby like. i usually like when guys look older and mature. that’s just me. and i don’t know if anyone else agrees with me but the taboo of it adds a lot to it for me. like im not supposed to but that makes me want to do it more. like eating candy at night when i was a kid lol.

[WavesInEternity]

[...] and i don’t know if anyone else agrees with me but the taboo of it adds a lot to it for me. like im not supposed to but that makes me want to do it more. like eating candy at night when i was a kid lol.

Ah, I was waiting for that one. The so-called Forbidden Fruit Effect, yet another reason why the current legal framework is counter-productive. When I was much younger, it did make me significantly more curious to search for porn online (at 10) and smoke cannabis (at 13).

Such behaviour is evidently linked to risk-taking and can lead to unhealthy or harmful decisions. Nevertheless, it very much depends on the situation, and the effect can be used to your advantage as long as you're aware of its workings.

Now that I'm older, I sometimes make a more cautious and deliberate use of the effect for added thrill in my intimate relationships, for instance through quasi-exhibitionism (e.g. fingering my girl to orgasm in a crowded botanical garden, hidden by some trees) and controversial edgeplay (e.g. pretend-raping my girl after I drugged her with her prior consent). Fun times.

However, even as a teenager, I've always restricted myself to actions that don't contravene my strict moral code. For instance, I'd never cheat on my partner or actually commit drug-facilitated date rape. I wouldn't even have sex with an inebriated girl unless I'm already in a relationship with her.

[Doxinator14]

Well the main reason is they're more mature (I mean like we can still do or say dumb stuff but there is no things like « lol I say very racist or homophobic shit all the time because I think it's funny » like the majority of my friends do and I find it really annoying frl) and they have more chances to understand me (like what, how or why I feel a certain way like they can relate more or something?). They are also more caring (like making sure I’m ok).
I have noticed that in the age group I like, in general they treat me more like I'm equal to them (or at least like a teen) and not like a baby. They respect that I want to be more independent and that I don't want or need a second mother And I prefer their bodies ! Also if the Lady is more dominant (without being mean) well it's a pretty cool bonus

[WavesInEternity]

I have noticed that in the age group I like, in general they treat me more like I'm equal to them (or at least like a teen) and not like a baby. They respect that I want to be more independent and that I don't want or need a second mother

I don't know about adults in your preferred age range, but MAAs in general tend to treat young people in a more egalitarian fashion. I certainly consider that it's important to view youths as autonomous beings and foster independent thinking rather than obedience and conformity.

And I prefer their bodies !

That is, of course, completely incomprehensible to me. (I find that girls' bodies are most attractive between the ages of 8 and 12 approximately.)

Also if the Lady is more dominant (without being mean) well it's a pretty cool bonus

I find it really interesting that self-described AAMs here seem to prefer dominant partners (and thus tend toward submissiveness). As I mentioned earlier, it corresponds to the stereotypes on which age play relies. I've often had the impression that my own sexual dominance was at least partly related to my minor-attraction, but I was surprised to find out that few of my fellow MAPs are strictly dominant like I am.

[Meiwaku_Mailing_Girl]

As a former AAM, I thought I might chime in. When I was adolescent I preferred adult men over my same aged peers. I think the reason I preferred adults was because I felt more mature than my same aged peers and I loved discussing serious topics like philosophy and hard sciences. A mature intellectual man was what i desired. I thought about being in a relationship with a good man. Sometimes I would picture what I would have been like as an adult married to such a man and living the happy marriage life with would share. These desires and fantasies disappeared by the time I was 14, but occasionally afterwards, I would develop feeling for an older man based on his personality and the chemistry we had.

[WavesInEternity]

As a former AAM, I thought I might chime in. When I was adolescent I preferred adult men over my same aged peers. I think the reason I preferred adults was because I felt more mature than my same aged peers and I loved discussing serious topics like philosophy and hard sciences. A mature intellectual man was what i desired. I thought about being in a relationship with a good man. Sometimes I would picture what I would have been like as an adult married to such a man and living the happy marriage life with would share. These desires and fantasies disappeared by the time I was 14, but occasionally afterwards, I would develop feeling for an older man based on his personality and the chemistry we had.

Your insight is welcome. AAMs that become MAAs are very rare, for obvious reasons. How exactly did your erotic interest switch from being oriented toward adults to being oriented toward minors? Or are you still a non-exclusive MAP? Do you still occasionally develop feelings for older men? If not, why are the aspects of their personalities that used to attract you no longer central to your experience of romantic & erotic desire?

Personality-wise, you probably would have been the kind of teenage girl I'm most attracted to.

[Meiwaku_Mailing_Girl]

As a former AAM, I thought I might chime in. When I was adolescent I preferred adult men over my same aged peers. I think the reason I preferred adults was because I felt more mature than my same aged peers and I loved discussing serious topics like philosophy and hard sciences. A mature intellectual man was what i desired. I thought about being in a relationship with a good man. Sometimes I would picture what I would have been like as an adult married to such a man and living the happy marriage life with would share. These desires and fantasies disappeared by the time I was 14, but occasionally afterwards, I would develop feeling for an older man based on his personality and the chemistry we had.

Your insight is welcome. AAMs that become MAAs are very rare, for obvious reasons. How exactly did your erotic interest switch from being oriented toward adults to being oriented toward minors? Or are you still a non-exclusive MAP? Do you still occasionally develop feelings for older men? If not, why are the aspects of their personalities that used to attract you no longer central to your experience of romantic & erotic desire?

Personality-wise, you probably would have been the kind of teenage girl I'm most attracted to.

I'm not sure why it switched. I first noticed my attraction to minors at 12 but at that age I still preferred adults. When I was a teenager I didn't think much about dating or sex but I do remember jokingly saying to myself that men peak at 13. I'm still marginally attracted to adults but I'm only really interested in children. I'm not seeking to have a relationship with an adult. If I happen to develop feeling for an adult then I won't mind dating them but it'll never truly be fulfilling.