Question for AAMs: Why Are Adults Attractive to You?

[WavesInEternity]

I'm not sure why it switched.

How mysterious! You really are an unusual case. I don't think I've ever heard of another like you.

If I happen to develop feeling for an adult then I won't mind dating them but it'll never truly be fulfilling.

I certainly understand that feeling... although I'd add that I was very surprised, even shocked, by the extent to which my last relationship with a young adult was fulfilling, because of the way her autopedophilia and our inclusion of heavy BDSM in the relationship increased our sexual bond to a depth I didn't think was even possible (just to give one example I've talked about elsewhere on this forum, rape role play without a safe word wasn't something I'd have thought I'd ever try). It was satisfying in a completely different way than if she had been in my ideal age range, but it was still deeply satisfying.

[Meiwaku_Mailing_Girl]

I find it telling that the 2 AAMs are attracted and interested in an adult, specifically a MAP, who is dominating. This idea that MAPs are looking to dominate someone is a persistent stereotype.

[Jim Burton]

Since AAM is an extraordinary social role, and little is known about MAPs besides stereotypes, you would expect those who fill it to foil for the stereotype.

[Doxinator14]

I find it telling that the 2 AAMs are attracted and interested in an adult, specifically a MAP, who is dominating. This idea that MAPs are looking to dominate someone is a persistent stereotype.

I have said it's a nice bonus if she is

[Outis]

Thinking back to my own youth I was attracted to people my own age, younger and older and today I'm attracted to people around my own age and much younger since I'm not exclusive.

But I do remember a few adults I was seriously attracted to. One was the mom who lived next door, when I was around 10 I was attracted to her and her daughter who was around 4 at the time. There were several other adults I was very attracted to including a man who I had a relationship with, but there were other people younger than me I was attracted to. I guess for me even as a child it was less about age and more about beauty and attraction.

The young girl next door was a blond hair blue eyed beauty while her mom was an attractive adult lady. I don't recall for me it ever being about anything more than I found them physically attractive and I was drawn to them. As an adult my attraction remained stronger towards young girls but also people around my own age to a lesser extent and over time the drivers of that attraction became more complicated. I mean today I tend to find young girls attractive off looks along at times, even more attractive if I get to know them and click with their personalities while for anyone my own age its rare to feel that attraction and when it does arise it's a result of being around them for a long time and developing an emotional connection.

It's interesting to read what AAMs are writing through. I wonder if subconsciously I had something similar I just wasn't aware of.