How exactly do you justify child-adult sex (in scenarios where you believe it would be permissible)?

[BLueRibbon]

It seems like you want the minor to be the one to come to us for sex when that is just unrealistic.

Why is that unrealistic?

Its not unrealistic if put in the proper situation which is highly unlikely for us , I was speaking from the % of it actually happening. its for sure possible but very unlikely.

My last close YF tried to start something when he was 12 or 13 (I declined due to the legal risk). My understanding from talking with other BLs is that this is not uncommon. I think you're buying too much into the childhood innocence myth.