Question for nepiophiles

[mrlolicon93]

This thread is for infantophiles/nepiophiles.

Why are you attracted to babies and toddlers?

What is it about them you find attractive or appealing?

Do you find yourself attracted to older children too or just infants and toddlers?

Why do you think very little research has been done regarding maps attracted to babies and toddlers?

As a map mainly attracted to older children and adolescence i am curious and would like to hear from some nepiophiles and get their perspective on things.

[HumanBeing]

I find toddlers (2 years old as my minimum AoA) absolutely attractive both emotionally and sexually but despite that I don't consider myself a "Nepio" because I don't find babies or anyone younger than 2 years old sexually or emotionally attractive, In fact I don't like the idea of having babies in my care because the lack of basic communication between the baby and me would make me feel nervous.

That's why I don't agree with the mainstream interpretation of Nepiophilia (because it overlaps 2 months old babies with even 5 years old boys and girls)

There's an good article by "MeiwakuGirl" which explains this in a deeper way:
https://kindpeoplemykindapeople.site/4- ... piophilia/

[Pegasus]

I'm a nepi, GL, but not exclusive, girls aged 6 to 9 are also very sexy and seductive. Girls from 9 to 12 months are so cute, their soft skin, their baby fat, their smell, all this turns you on, their size in relation to adults also does. Girls aged 2, 3 and 4 are also very curious and collaborative. I also see that the map themselves see the nepi as somewhat separate from the rest of the community. It sounds strange to say that, but it's reality. It wasn't supposed to be like this, after all, we're all in the same boat. And the nepi, at least those who admit to being nepi, are not such an expressive part of the community, there is no research on the subject.

[Justincredible]

This thread is for infantophiles/nepiophiles.

Why are you attracted to babies and toddlers?

What is it about them you find attractive or appealing?

Do you find yourself attracted to older children too or just infants and toddlers?

Why do you think very little research has been done regarding maps attracted to babies and toddlers?

As a map mainly attracted to older children and adolescence i am curious and would like to hear from some nepiophiles and get their perspective on things.

I think babies are cute and cuddly.. and I'd enjoy their company.. but it's not the same type of attraction to an older girl.

Once they're even 2 or 3 they start getting that girly shape and hair growing longer. There's a LG that comes in to my work who's turning 3 in a few months and she's absolutely gorgeous.. beautiful long bouncing curls, a stunning face, full pouty lips.. and quite the little body on her . Oh goodness I'd give anything to cuddle with her

.. and fun fact.. she knows my name.. and says "hi Justin" whenever she comes in. Her mom is super cool with me.. and can't tell I'm just so smitten by her daughter

I know this post was for nepi's but just figured I'd chime in..

[Enbyfictionwriter]

It’s interesting that you bring this question up, because it’s something I am working through in my own being as well. I can only speak for myself, but something that has been very helpful to me in framing this is a more female versus male oriented take on sexuality. I identity as nonbinary, and my presence with children is definitely on the motherly caring tender gentle end. Where I can shirt gears and work on car engines and play football with guys and stuff.

It might be precisely BECAUSE this age group is so young, that I can actually feel so satisfied in my real life. Because what I crave the most is physical intimacy. In fantasy this can occur with lots of hot storylines, but what I’ve found in reality is that “sex” is wholly unnecessary to feel satisfied. But I can pick up a three year old and hug them tight, kiss the bridge of their nose, and tell them I love them. It’s kind a privilege thing I guess, because if your aoa is 8 or 12 you probably can’t do that.

I also like what someone wrote a few days ago - can’t remember who or what post - but it was in regards to not making things “sexceptional.”

Where do we even draw the line on what is sexual and what is sensual or loving? What lights me up the most is giving care, and experiencing that bond and closeness. I was at a party and I met this adorable little about-to-be two year old. Just picking her up, holding her in my arms, her feeling safe with me - and her resting her little head on my shoulder - was heaven. They are also so beautiful when they are naked, and what is big for me in FANTASY is really getting to kiss and suck their tiny little bits. I’m not sure if this would even make sense in an alternate reality where it was legal and allowed.

My AoA is pretty much earlier childhood, probably peak 2-8yo. But again, where do we draw the line between sex and love? I have hot fantasies, but my life is perfectly fine without indulging anything involving a penis or a clitoris. It’s just not a big deal (and don’t get me wrong, it’s a huge deal for me to be able to fantasize about these things). Nancy Friday is one of my favorite authors - I will try to pull some quotes by her when I get home. But essentially she believes we can get really horny precisely BECAUSE something is forbidden and off limits. And in fact, when we were children, all nudity and sex was off limits, so it can be insanely appealing in our minds now. I was once changing the diaper of a little boy, and his older brother who was sitting there with his friend sent her out of the room- because she is a girl and “you can’t see his private parts.” And it made me think - might that plant a seed of desire? Literally desiring something precisely because you are told NO.

So for me, being a nepi is about giving love and care and nurturing. Even in my fantasies I don’t want to do much other than an elaboration on that theme. And in reality caregiving itself with this age range has its own kind of eroticism, if you even want to call it that. I mean, you can cradle a 2 or 3 year old child in your lap and stroke their calf, for example, and nobody bats an eye. Especially if you are a female relative. But if a man did the same thing with a 9 year old girl, it’s suddenly very “sexual.”

Hopefully this makes sense and I’m not just rambling. But I’ve thought about this a great deal, for many years. I think this type of sexuality has a place, evolutionarily. We are part of the pack, we love and adore children so much, we help THEM reach an age of procreation alive and well (this is a theory for homosexuality and evolution in general I believe).

It’s also why I am so careful, and am so grateful for others stories of ‘slip ups.’ The sex is really not the focus. I wouldn’t ever want to do something remotely illegal or cross a boundary with a child, because to put the love and care at risk for that just wouldn’t be worth it. My sexuality is totally satisfied by reading stories and forums. But my heart and “soul,” If you will, is only satisfied with giving true love and care to children.

I don’t want to present this as a “better” version of sex than how others feel. It’s just where I am at. And calling it more female helps me process, but that may or may not be accurate. Who knows? The way some MAPs talk about children is kind of just like they were adults who you want to take on a date and make love to - and again, no judgment! Your feelings and experiences are valid (just need to keep everyone healthy and safe). But it’s helped me to see that this isn’t really how I feel, even if sometimes in fantasy I explore those themes.

And it’s kind of like my body is working it out too. While holding that little two year old girl my body turned itself on completely! But I didn’t FEEL turned on. My heart , and my anxiety felt turned on- not my sexuality. At least not the “horny” part. So I think this is more about anxiety and hypervigalence. My therapist once talked to me about this, how women can experience getting wet, or men getting hard, but not really “turned on.” Just makes it that much harder to sort out.

In addition to it being this very “primoridally feminine” sort of sexuality, it’s also development to me. I think evolution is trying to ask my body to do what benefits the kiddo. I can sit with this baby in a room full of people and smell her hair and kiss her little neck and feel kind of heavenly. There isn’t anything more needed. In some of these stories or articles you will see a four year old who gets in a grown ups lap and gently rocks themselves on their leg, which is kind of like self pleasuring. I could see just holding a child while they did that, not “involved” at all. But sending the message that it is ok, thus fostering a healthy sexuality. It’s not “one size fits all.” For me being a nepi doesn’t mean I want to take baby in the other room to rip their diaper off. That would be kind of missing the point. To me kids are here to care for , to give love to. I would LOVE if we could be a bit more sexual about that; but it wouldn’t essentially change things (in a perfect world). I can’t imagine, even in fantasy, that a child would ever be meeting MY needs. It just doesn’t add up for me. I want to always give, not get.

So what you think of as “sex” might be part of the issue in understanding here. If sex means parts have to bump together and orgasms must be had, it might be hard to understand. But if “sex” can be love and bonding, it might make more sense. Can “sex” be a kiss on the cheek?

[Meiwaku_Mailing_Girl]

There's an good article by "MeiwakuGirl" which explains this in a deeper way:
https://kindpeoplemykindapeople.site/4- ... piophilia/

Thank you for sharing my blog!

Why are you attracted to babies and toddlers?

I don't know. I start to find children attractive around 15 to 18 months but there are some kids in the single digit mouths I found attractive. I usually don't start to find a kid attractive until they can stand up and have some teeth.

What is it about them you find attractive or appealing?

Their cuteness! I love their eyes, button nose, chibi proportions, the plump stubby limbs, smooth skin, their tiny size, which makes them easy to pick up, to toss, spin, or bounce on your leg, the way they enunciate words, their mannerism, they are often so affectionate, I love when they run up to give a hug. They are so small they don't even reach my hips. They have to wrap their arms around my legs. The primary use of non-verbal communication. They are incredibly emotional

Do you find yourself attracted to older children too or just infants and toddlers?

I prefer 3 to 10.

Why do you think very little research has been done regarding maps attracted to babies and toddlers?

Because it's uncommon.

[Valerian]

Enbyfictionwriter, I read your post today titled “Question for nepiophiles” today, and it closely aligns with a theoretical idea that has been on my mind for some time. In fact, I’ve been preparing a short article on the topic. One key distinction I’ve noticed in most discussions on the MAP forum is that they predominantly approach the subject of adult-minor sexual attraction from the perspective of adults. In contrast, my approach is primarily rooted in the child's perspective—shaped by my own lived experience as a child many years ago. With that in mind, I’d like to share the opening paragraph of the article I’m currently working on.

LABELLING ADULT-CHILD INTIMATE BODY CONTACT AS CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE (CSA)
Let us undertake a thorough, unbiased scientific inquiry into a highly sensitive issue that spans academic, legal, social, and behavioural domains within the field of child protection and welfare. This concerns a vital aspect of a child’s growth and healthy developmental progress, I refer it as “Adult-Child Intimate Body Contact” (ACIBC). Yet, this category of human behavior is frequently stigmatized and criminalized under the label of Adult-Minor Sexual Contact (AMSC), based on the presumption that it is inherently harmful to children due to a so-called “imbalance of power”—often framed as child grooming. This labelling persists regardless of whether the contact involves a child’s own parents or other caring adults genuinely invested in the child’s well-being, and to whom the child may offer unconditional affection and trust.

[Enbyfictionwriter]

Valerian, this is interesting! Maybe add some clarity on the ages and behaviors you are talking about. Ie bouncing a baby to sleep versus cuddling a 9yo girl and kissing her. Different/not different.

Meiwaku mailing girl, I am listening to your interview right now. I love everything you are saying so much!!

[Enbyfictionwriter]

So I have to post a reply now that I listened to your whole interview. Wow! I really just love everything that was discussed.

Perhaps what resonated with me the most was this idea that debates over pro and anti c kind of miss the point. Do I dream about a world where we might have some contact? I mean it sounds kind of nice, but it’s not my personal priority (and please don’t take this as judgment if you are more on that pro c side of things - it’s valid as well). But for me the most painful part is feeling like I am “bad” or not honest as I care for my children - which is the most important thing to me in the world. Even though I don’t break laws or try to have contact or any of that - it just feels off. Especially with unwanted “body arousal” too. The sense of shame is painful, and I wish we could deal with that as a society. We’ve reached a point where you can be any gender and almost any sexuality, including Ace…but we’ve been left out.

Kids are my heart! So I dream about a world where our mental health is prioritized, along with the well being of children. Where we can satisfy our more sexual side with fantasies, stories and fiction and maybe art or just cute photos and stuff. Where I could say “yeah this is erotic for me, and that’s totally normal. I am happy and satisfied just taking care of the kids and being a good mentor. And bonding and loving. I don’t have anything to hide.”

[Meiwaku_Mailing_Girl]

Meiwaku mailing girl, I am listening to your interview right now. I love everything you are saying so much!!

Thanks very much! ^_^
I love your profile picture. Cute boy!