Yeah the marks would definitely last days haha. Sitting down becomes hard with bruises, and even walking hurts. I absolutely love really rough CnC. Smacking my partner around, pushing them up against a wall, or burying their face into the ground as I take advantage of them, using whatever hole I wish. Sigh. I miss those days. And car sex it great haha. You can get some extra leverage that's hard in a bedroom sometimes. And yeah, the seatbelt chocking is hot afJGHeaven wrote: Wed May 27, 2026 8:58 amLeaving marks for days is a good sign, being able to feel the after effects for days keeps the pleasure going in a way. Being thrown around and choking can be incredible as well, that helpless feeling below a man who is taking what he wants. I love the seatbelt idea, I've never been into guys with flash cars but finally a reason to enjoy a car journyMAPGL917 wrote: Wed May 27, 2026 5:36 amOnly a few times? That's a shame. I love a good, well placed and well timed spank while pulling hair and secretly pretending you're a cowboy. And you're right, if it does trigger an orgasm, and the vagina clenches like a vice grip, knees turn to jelly. That used to give me this insane GIDDY feeling every timeJGHeaven wrote: Tue May 26, 2026 3:49 pm That does sound like bliss. I've enjoyed spanking a few times but when it's during sex it can be whole next level and trigger orgasms.
I have often wondered why spanking and pain can be orgasmic, is it because as women we feel pain differently as a result of how we experience pain through childbirth. I haven't been in situations of extreme punishment but the idea of that is highly erotic. But even small amounts of pain can be very stimulating and when it's in a CnC setting, adding the emotional fear factor, it can be incredible.
Like, basically a kink/fetish. But yeah, now that you mention it, it usually is a well placed spank that triggers it.
And I think it has to do with the way our brains register pain and pleasure, and I'm pretty sure they use relatively the same chemicals. But in the heat of the moment, the brain forgets how it's supposed to translate those pain drugs, and turns it into pleasure.
I wouldn't say we broached into Extreme punishment. But, I have spanked hard enough to leave welts and bruises for days, smacked her head into a wall, or pushed into the floor. Plenty of choking. I love using the seatbelt during car sex for that. Other than that... Well... Idk what it's referred to as, I'm sure there's a term. But we used penis extenders and cock sleeves to max out the size. And mind you, I'm already above average as it is. But, she likes to be stuffed. Plus, in a full cnc setting, shaking the shape and feel of my dick helps with the immersion, you know?
I think power exchange can be exciting because it allows us to be ourselves rather than all being strong confident men or women. The messaging today is that everyone needs to be a leader, strong, confident, demanding but many of us art not. We like a strong man leading, submission can be incredibly fulfilling and exciting. When a man takes charge and even in a brutal way it feels like a sigh of relief, a chance to just be me if that makes sense.
I like taking charge because most of the time it's a partnership. Anything I do that effects both of us, I'd involve my partner. We're a team. But, sometimes I just want to be in charge, and do stuff without having to tell or make sure it's ok. I get to be dominate.it just feel extra empowering... Well, someday hopefully I'm blessed to find myself back in that situation.
