Why Teenage Daughters Start Treating Their Dads Differently

[msykm99]

Life is strange. Women like to have their nipples sucked sexually but use them to feed their children. Men like being called daddy but won’t attempt to have sex with their actual daughters.

Me personally, I’ve thought about having sex with my sisters and mother. I would never bang my mom but my feelings toward my sisters are different. I know I’m not alone with how I think because the most popular porn categories is family porn. I feel like “everyday” people have thought about having sex with a sibling or even a parent because we are human. We think about everything. I’m just saying the quiet part out loud.

I don’t have kids but I think having a daughter is a strange dynamic. There is no freaking way you have a hot daughter without thinking about something sexual. Yes “normal” people may think it and then quickly dismiss it and be weirded out. But it is the thought that I am focused on. Why is the thought even in your head. “Normal” people will probably swear up and down they’ve never or would ever think of their son or daughter in that way; and I know that’s a lie.

I think when daughters get older in their teen years they start to look at their dad’s differently because they come to terms that sex is out of the equation. Why do “normal” people always say things like, “Find a husband that treats you like your dad would” or “Find a wife that treats you like your mother would”. That in itself shows how complex life is and how confused we are as a whole. The way parents treat their kids when they find out they’re having sex is strange to me. I get the whole pregnancy thing, but besides that they say things like “I can’t imagine my little girl having sex”. I think these things are all weird routes to take to disguise the truth.

I like ages 5 and up. And I can’t imagine a dude who likes a nice ass or nice boobs seeing a girl underage and NOT saying to themselves “Damn she has a nice body for her age” in their heads. So imagine having that little girl around you all day. If you’ve been around children you know how they act and how clingy they are. They want to touch and kiss you. They explore, they’ll touch your private parts without thinking about it. Parents spend most of their time telling kids what they can and cannot do. Those are some of them. Without telling them, then they would naturally be attracted to you. I feel as though when girls come to terms that they cannot have sex with their dads then they start to treat other boys differently because they are confused.

[Scorchingwilde]

Life is strange. Women like to have their nipples sucked sexually but use them to feed their children. Men like being called daddy but won’t attempt to have sex with their actual daughters.

Me personally, I’ve thought about having sex with my sisters and mother. I would never bang my mom but my feelings toward my sisters are different. I know I’m not alone with how I think because the most popular porn categories is family porn. I feel like “everyday” people have thought about having sex with a sibling or even a parent because we are human. We think about everything. I’m just saying the quiet part out loud.

I don’t have kids but I think having a daughter is a strange dynamic. There is no freaking way you have a hot daughter without thinking about something sexual. Yes “normal” people may think it and then quickly dismiss it and be weirded out. But it is the thought that I am focused on. Why is the thought even in your head. “Normal” people will probably swear up and down they’ve never or would ever think of their son or daughter in that way; and I know that’s a lie.

I think when daughters get older in their teen years they start to look at their dad’s differently because they come to terms that sex is out of the equation. Why do “normal” people always say things like, “Find a husband that treats you like your dad would” or “Find a wife that treats you like your mother would”. That in itself shows how complex life is and how confused we are as a whole. The way parents treat their kids when they find out they’re having sex is strange to me. I get the whole pregnancy thing, but besides that they say things like “I can’t imagine my little girl having sex”. I think these things are all weird routes to take to disguise the truth.

I like ages 5 and up. And I can’t imagine a dude who likes a nice ass or nice boobs seeing a girl underage and NOT saying to themselves “Damn she has a nice body for her age” in their heads. So imagine having that little girl around you all day. If you’ve been around children you know how they act and how clingy they are. They want to touch and kiss you. They explore, they’ll touch your private parts without thinking about it. Parents spend most of their time telling kids what they can and cannot do. Those are some of them. Without telling them, then they would naturally be attracted to you. I feel as though when girls come to terms that they cannot have sex with their dads then they start to treat other boys differently because they are confused.

In my own life I've thought of (but not actually been interested in or attracted to) sex with my parents and other relatives. Honestly, the only time the concept was truly distressing was when the person was abusive (in ways that were entirely nonsexual, mind you) or in denial of my actual gender as a trans person, which was because of dysphoria. I think sometimes the expectations people's kids face from their family or the top-down control and coercion over the household parents keep over their children make that kind of disgust almost inevitable, but it's not always the case, and I don't know how parents and their children would feel in a more anarchistic context devoid of all the arbitrary rules and hierarchy. For what it's worth, I was confused to the high heavens about sibling incest when I was younger because of religious myths and stories about princes marrying princesses not explaining the royals coming from different countries. Sometimes in fiction I like sibling incest, or in a more normal setting, 'childhood best friends' as a trope as a form of connection, solidarity, and resistance to parental and/or societal abuse.

[John_Doe]

Men like being called daddy but won’t attempt to have sex with their actual daughters.

That might be for altruistic reasons, or just the social taboo of it. There is absolutely nothing wrong with parents being attracted to or madly in love with their children, and that's a hill that I'm willing to die on, but in a real-world context I think good parents will keep that to themselves (as in, keep it from their children) 99.9% of the time, at least.

The only reason I wouldn't want someone calling me 'daddy' is because it reminds me of what I call my father (even though we pronounce it 'duh-dee') and ruin the mood. If not for that I would like it (although I would probably find it pointless if the girl wasn't old enough to be my daughter, not that I would relate to people in their 20s, or maybe even older teens, any differently).

Me personally, I’ve thought about having sex with my sisters and mother. I would never bang my mom but my feelings toward my sisters are different. I know I’m not alone with how I think because the most popular porn categories is family porn. I feel like “everyday” people have thought about having sex with a sibling or even a parent because we are human. We think about everything. I’m just saying the quiet part out loud.

I think I would break down and weep with tears of joy if I found out that my hypothetical attractive daughter wanted to have sex with me. Then I would break down and cry tears of frustration because my erectile dysfunction would make it impossible and if she was attracted to me with clothes on, she wouldn't be to my nude body.

I think many people are excited by the idea of abstract incest but not their actual relatives (as in, they're turned on by the idea of having sex with some hypothetical person who is a family member but not the family members they actually have). I like the idea of having sex with a 'mommy,' sister, daughter, etc. but I'm not attracted to my actual mother or relatives. I've always been turned on by the idea of a woman who wants to have sex with her father, son, brother, etc.

I'm curious, were you raised with your mother and sisters?

There is no freaking way you have a hot daughter without thinking about something sexual. Yes “normal” people may think it and then quickly dismiss it and be weirded out. But it is the thought that I am focused on. Why is the thought even in your head. “Normal” people will probably swear up and down they’ve never or would ever think of their son or daughter in that way; and I know that’s a lie.

I find it hard to believe but people can suppress their natural instincts which is no way to live. When it comes to fantasy at least there should be no limits, as much as I think that someone should be the kind of person who would never want to hurt others or de-value their happiness which would rule out certain interests/fantasies. If there's any truth to the Westermark Effect, I don't see how it would apply to a parent's feelings toward their child.

I tend to find other people boring, not because they lack charisma or because of their personalities or their not being wild extroverts, they would probably find me boring in that regard, but because of their values. The value of life lies in having fun (although 'fun' has very specific connotations and I mean happiness in general) and serve the happiness of others but they have so many different arbitrary rules around when or whose happiness matters or when it can be justifiably pursued, above and beyond not wanting to cause pain to others or deprive them of happiness. I can't stand living in a world where it's taboo even just to want harmless mutually pleasurable sex with 'off-limits' people, however unrealistic people think it being ultimately harmless would be.

I think when daughters get older in their teen years they start to look at their dad’s differently because they come to terms that sex is out of the equation. Why do “normal” people always say things like, “Find a husband that treats you like your dad would” or “Find a wife that treats you like your mother would”. That in itself shows how complex life is and how confused we are as a whole. The way parents treat their kids when they find out they’re having sex is strange to me. I get the whole pregnancy thing, but besides that they say things like “I can’t imagine my little girl having sex”. I think these things are all weird routes to take to disguise the truth.

I could be wrong but I don't think the idea of wanting a husband who is like your father, as one example (I don't think I've heard 'find a woman who treats you like your mother does' so much as the idea that how a man feels about his mother will translate to how he feels about women in general or what kind of a husband he'll be), is a tell for someone being attracted to their father. I think it just means that they want a man who has the character and integrity of their father, their relationship will go beyond sexual attraction and intimacy. I've always wondered if people with very conventionally attractive family members think about them sexually and I could easily see it being the case that many of them do.

I didn't understand what you meant when you said that they start to look at their dads differently (or your last sentence, in the last paragraph). I would imagine that most teenage girls are not attracted to their fathers and would find the idea of sex with them horrifying, which is a big part of why I think it's generally better for a father to keep his attraction to his daughter to himself and just focus on the fantasy.

I like ages 5 and up. And I can’t imagine a dude who likes a nice ass or nice boobs seeing a girl underage and NOT saying to themselves “Damn she has a nice body for her age” in their heads. So imagine having that little girl around you all day. If you’ve been around children you know how they act and how clingy they are. They want to touch and kiss you. They explore, they’ll touch your private parts without thinking about it. Parents spend most of their time telling kids what they can and cannot do. Those are some of them. Without telling them, then they would naturally be attracted to you. I feel as though when girls come to terms that they cannot have sex with their dads then they start to treat other boys differently because they are confused.

By the time girls start to grow breasts, I think they're way beyond the kind of clingyness or exploration you seem to have in mind.

Scorchingwilde,

I'm not sure if this is close to what you're saying but I think the authoritarian, controlling role that parents often play would make it harder for children to think of them in that way. In the older man-young girl relationships that I might find endearing, the man might protect the girl, provide for her and generally care for her but he would not be a disciplinarian, he wouldn't be angry or frustrated if she 'disobeyed' him or feel entitled to try and control her, etc.